No Success in life? Here’s Why

No Success? Here's Why...

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Why Am I Not Successful in My Life?

“What is going on? Why am I not successful? What am I doing wrong?”.

Everyone's asked themselves these questions at some point. 

When you frame a question like that what do you expect will be the answer? 

The voice in your head says things like “ you’re not good enough, or smart enough. What if you fail?”.

We tell ourselves lies. And when we start to believe, the become true.

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If you haven’t yet found the success you’re looking for, there could be a few reasons why.

Here are the most common ones;

1. You Have No Clear Goals or Plans

If you have no goals and no plans, you really have no hope. 

That shiny object you want won’t magically appear on your doorstep just because you want it.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. 

People will tell you it does so they can sell you books and products.

But if it really was that simple wouldn’t everyone be successful?

A clearly defined goal backed by a rational plan to achieve it puts you ahead of 90% of the population.

2. You Lack Productivity

There’s a difference between being busy and being productive.

Being productive is taking action and making progress towards your goals. 

Achieving a worthwhile goal takes work.

The more you procrastinate and mess around the longer it will take to get where you want to go.

You can’t half-ass your way to success.

Either go all-in or go and do something else.

3. You Waste Your Time

Think about how much time you waste every day.

Social media, surfing the web, chatting with friends via the numerous apps on your phone, watching Netflix for hours on end, sleeping more than you need to.

Add up how much time you waste every day and multiply that over a year.

The number will astonish you.

If you ask me why you’re not successful the first thing I’ll ask you is “what are your goals?” and “how do you spend your time?”.

4. You’re Focused on Outcome Instead of Process

If you link your success with the attainment of a goal, sometime in the future, then until you hit that goal you’re not a success, by your own definition.

What if instead of defining success by what you’ve accomplished, you define it by the amount of action you're taking towards the goal.

Failure is a very real possibility. Nothing in life is risk free.

You can't control all the variables that need to fit together before you succeed.

Change your metric from the accomplishment of the goal to how much you're putting into it. 

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Of course, the achievement is what we want, but if you take care of the daily grind, getting the work done, the results will take care of themselves.

If you’re writing a book, for example, don’t wait until it’s on the bestseller list before you give yourself permission to feel good about yourself.

If you’re putting in the work and making progress towards a meaningful goal, you’re succeeding with that goal. 

Finally getting your goal is the cherry on top.

You should define your success by how you live your life, day in and day out. 

Stop thinking that you’re only successful once you have a certain thing.

Define your success by what you’re doing each day to get there.

Your yardstick for success should be the progress you’re making towards getting what you want.

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Do You Have to Struggle to Be Successful?

Not necessarily. But ask any person who you’d consider successful about their journey, and they’ll tell you they struggled more than most people.

But despite their struggles, they persevered. That’s why they’re successful.

You see, success (however you define it) doesn’t always go to the smartest or most skilled, or even the most deserving.

Lasting success goes to the people who know what they want and are willing to pay the price for it.

Even if that means getting battered around for years before realizing what they originally set out for.

Obviously, you want to avoid struggle and setback as much as you can.

But expecting success without any struggle is delusional.

Success goes to people who know what they want and are willing to pay the price for it.

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What Are the Habits of Successful People?

I've observed the character traits of successful people from all walks of life.

While everyone is unique, they have similarities that nearly all of them share. 

1. They Rise Early and Value Their Time

We all have the same amount of time each day. 

Successful people know the importance of time.

They structure their lives in a way that allows them to take leverage their time in pursuit of their goals and objectives. 

The clock doesn’t move backward, and time is always running out.

People who succeed in life invest their time, as opposed to spending it.

2. They Read Alot

When researching successful people a common theme I noticed was that they were all avid readers.

Reading gives you an edge that people who don’t read will never have. 

There’s no excuse to not read.

When people tell me they don’t like reading, they remember being in school, reading a boring textbook they had no interest in.

That’s not reading, that’s rote learning.

Reading should be a pleasurable and stimulating activity.

Get on or go to a library or bookstore.

Find some books that interest you and start reading.

Reading gives you an edge that people who don’t read will never have.

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3. They Take Time Out to Think

Successful people understand the power of thought. 

They make time to be alone with their thoughts and when they have a good idea they note it down and act on it. 

Productive thoughts rarely come when you’re preoccupied with picking up the kids or how you’re going to pay your mortgage next month.

You need to clear your mind of all the noise and create an internal environment conducive to intelligent and introspective thought.

Try it for yourself. Switch off your phone and sit in silence.

Keep your mind on a specific problem or goal, relax, and just think.

You’ll be surprised at what you come up with.

When you get a flash of inspiration or a new line of thought you hadn’t considered, write it down and act on it.

4. Physical Health is a Priority

Regular exercise clears your mind and gives you intense pleasure at the same time.

Anyone who works out regularly can attest to this. 

Most successful people (+80%) exercise every day.

Success requires mental capacity and physical energy. You need to be at your best.

5. They Spend Time With People Who Inspire Them

Who you associate with is who you eventually become.

We rise or fall to the expectations of our peer group. 

The answer to why this is true can be found in evolutionary biology, behavioural psychology, and social dynamics. 

When you spend time with people who have self-respect, goals, and high expectations for themselves you’ll take on the same traits.

If your time is spent with losers who think it’s ok to be a loser, or even worse they don’t even realize they’re a loser, it's time to find a new peer group.

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6. They Have Clearly Defined Goals

You’re more likely to get what you want if you a) know what it is and b) pursue it with a vengeance.

No one becomes successful by being clueless about who they want to be and what they want to accomplish.

Successful people have clearly defined goals for both long and short-term timeframes.

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They pursue their most important goals obsessively until they achieve them.

They might pivot course and change strategy along the way, but they don’t give up until they have what they want. 

Their thinking process is “I want that thing and this is how I plan to get it.

I’ll take the necessary actions and make the required sacrifices, and sooner or later, with a bit of luck and a lot of hard work, I’ll get it”.

You’re more likely to get what you want if you can clearly define it, and you pursue it with a vengeance. 

7. They Take Relentless Action to Get What They Want

This one thing is the difference between success and failure.

Ideas are the easy part, execution is what matters.

It sounds so simple, “of course if you want something you have to take action to get it,” you say.

But how many people say they want something but don’t do anything to get it.

I know I’ve done that in my own life, you probably have too. 

People come up with fantastical excuses as to why they’re not as successful as they could be. 

Most of the time its laziness or fear of failure that holds people back from making a truly exceptional life for themselves.

The answers to our problems are usually quite simple. 

If you’re not getting the results you want, you need to be more active in pursuing them. 

Taking action means taking intelligent action.

Don't throw mud at a wall and hope it sticks.

You have a plan and you're implementing that plan.

You can alter that plan at any time if you find a superior way to get the job done,

But never cease taking conscious and deliberate action towards your aims.

Ideas are the easy part. Execution is what counts. 

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What Can I Do to Be More Successful?

1. Get Clear About Who You Are and What You Want

Knowing who you are and what you want is half the battle.

Once you’re clear on this you have a strong foundation for future success.

If you don’t know these answers you’d better find out.

Because not much is going to happen until you do.

Sit down for an hour and write in detail what type of person you want to be and the type of life you want to live.

What types of people do you want to have around you to share your success with?

2. Set Goals and a Plan to Achieve Them

Your brain needs a target to aim for.

Without goals in your life, how do you know whether you’re moving forwards, backward, or just standing still?

When you set clear goals something interesting starts to happen. 

You begin seeing opportunities where before you saw nothing.

You start meeting people of a similar mindset, who you can share ideas with and learn from.

3. Align Your Lifestyle and Habits With Your Goals

If you say you want to start your own business, but you’re playing video games and sleeping until noon, you’re fooling yourself. 

Another example is your health.

You say you want to get fit and look good, but you gorge on donuts every other day and put off going to the gym. 

Your daily habits are either moving you towards the realization of your goals or away from them. 

4. Raise Your Standards

Sometimes you have to step up your game.

If you’re not getting the results you want, turn up your intensity and go at it with a new sense of focus and determination.

You know the areas of your life you're falling short, and you know what you need to do to improve yourself.

Don't settle for mediocrity just because everyone around you does.

Be the exception. Growth and development is the purpose of life.

5. Cut the B.S From Your Life

How much energy do you waste on unimportant events going on around you?

Successful people value their time. They remove anything in their life that distracts them from their objective.

Cut out all unnecessary activities, toxic and negative people, and habits that don’t do you any good.

Set new boundaries for what you will and won’t allow into your life, and enforce them. 

Go through your home and get rid of anything you don’t need.

If you haven’t used it in 12 months, you don’t need it. Give it away, sell it, or throw it away.

Reassess your priorities and only invest your time into things that really matter.

Cut out all unnecessary activities, toxic and negative people, and habits that don’t do you any good.

Write down what you need to do more of, and what you should be doing less of. 

You have to do it for yourself.

Quotes About Being Successful

"Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." -- Winston S. Churchill

"The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same." -- Colin R. Davis

"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it." -- Henry David Thoreau

"I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have." - Thomas Jefferson

--"People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy." -  Tony Robbins

"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." -- Walt Disney
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