8 Ways How to Forget About Your Ex
It's Time to Move On
If you’ve recently had a break up and it's time to move on with your life you need to stop thinking about your ex.
Here are 8 sure ways to help you let go move on...
1. Stop Thinking About Them
Control Your Imagination
You might think you’re ex is with someone more beautiful, more intelligent, and more successful than you.
You picture them laughing and having amazing sex in a luxurious tropical location.
Don’t let your imagination run wild. That might be true but it likely isn’t.
Your ex is your ex. What they do now has nothing to do with you.
Whenever you think about your ex say out loud “NEXT!”
Focus on You First
You are your priority now. Focusing on yourself keeps you from thinking about your ex.
If you start thinking about who they're with and what they're doing, your next thought should be “who cares?”
Choose a New Perspective
Reframing is changing the meaning you give something.
When you think of your ex with someone else you can reframe the thought.
A simple reframe can be that the break-up is their loss and your gain.
You now have a clean slate upon which you can build an amazing life.
And that new person they’re with? They can have your ex because you sure as heck don’t want them back.
When you change the meaning you associate to an event you change it's emotional intensity.
2. Cease All Communication
Delete Their Number
Be brave and do it! Take your phone out of your pocket and delete their number.
Delete all text messages, missed calls, dialled and received calls. Delete everything.
If you do send them a message as soon as you hit send you’ll regret it. Why bother? Delete their number.
Block Them on Everything
Replace their name in your contact list with “Don't Call".
If you pick up your phone in a moment of weakness seeing those words will give you pause to come to your senses.
Don't Message Them
If you have the urge to contact your ex because there’s something you want to say, write it in your notes app.
The process of writing out your thoughts has a therapeutic effect.
Once it's out of your system you'll realise there’s no need to send them anything.
Type out your message on your phone as you usually would.
Instead of sending it to your ex, regretting it then feeling like an idiot, send it to yourself.
It sounds simple and silly. I’ve done it and it works.
After I sent and received the message to myself, my desire to contact them was gone.
3. Stop Checking Their Social Media
There’s no reason to stay connected on social media.
Unless you can completely cut them out of your life you haven’t moved on.
Go to all your social platforms and unfriend and unfollow them. You don’t want constant reminders of them.
If your ex posts photos having a great time with a new partner, do you really want to see that?
Unfriend and unfollow on all social media channels.
As well as deleting them, block them.
You don’t want your ex to enter your consciousness in any way.
You could delete them and have them pop up in ‘people you may know’ or somewhere similar. You don't want that.
If they try to contact you won’t get their message. Perfect.
Maintaining contact and keeping them in mind does nothing positive for you.
Leave the past where it is. Look to the future.
The worse thing you could do is to keep checking their social media to see what they're up to.
Aside from feeling like a stalker it will do nothing for your self esteem.
Every time you do it you make moving on more difficult for yourself.
Remember you don't need anyone but yourself to be happy. Forget about your ex.
4. Remember Why it Didn't Work
Face the Facts
You have your whole life ahead of you. Get excited.
The world is full of amazing people, places and things to do.
As time goes on people forget the worst and remember the best. There’s a reason things didn’t work out.
You weren't supposed to be with each other. It's as simple as that.
The evidence is the fact you’re not together anymore.
5. Meet New People
Go Out and Enjoy Yourself
When you want to stop thinking about your ex, keep yourself occupied.
Don’t sit in your room feeling sorry for yourself, go out and enjoy your life.
Dress up and look awesome. Discover new places and meet new people.
Get your thoughts off your ex and turn your attention to the new and exciting life that’s waiting for you.
Don't Be Shy, Say Hi
Don’t wait for a new life to come to you. Go and get it.
Make the first move. If you always wait for something to happen it never will. You need to make it happen.
Arrange a night out with your friends. Go and talk to that person who looks interesting.
Don’t wait for anyone. Do it yourself.
6. Focus on Self Development
Start a New Hobby
The best way to stop thinking about your ex is to make your life so awesome you wouldn’t even take them back if they begged.
That thing you’ve been wanting to do? Now’s the time to do it.
That thing you love to do? Double down and do it more.
Whatever you want to do, now is the time to do it.
Learn a New Skill
Decide one or two skill sets you want to develop.
A musical instrument, martial arts, learning to write code, anything.
Do some research online. Decide the best way for you to get started and enrol. All you have to do is show up.
You won’t even remember your ex let alone think about them when your minds focused on honing your new skills.
Travel as Much as You Can
Travel is the best form of therapy.
Being away from your regular environment gives you a new perspective on everything.
You get to know yourself more. You realise what’s important and what’s not. You'll forget about your ex in no time.
7. Start a New life
Don't Keep Anything That Reminds You of Them
Gather all the belongings you shared or bought together and get rid of them.
Any gifts they gave you, throw them out.
Getting rid of everything sends a clear message to your mind, your heart, and to the universe. You’re done.
The more you carry with you from the past, the harder it is to be in the present and walk into the future.
Delete Their Photo's From Your Phone
Go through your phone and delete every photo you have of them.
Don't look at their face anymore. You have emotional connections to that face.
Every time you see that face you experience past feelings all over again.
If deleting every photo sounds too extreme save them in a file and get them off your phone.
One day when you’ve moved on and you’re winning at life you can look at them. But why would you want to?
8. Focus on Living an Awesome Life
Make Yourself a Schedule
Make yourself an awesome schedule... and stick to it.
Don’t give yourself a moment of spare time to feel sorry for yourself or to think about your ex.
Your schedule should be about who you want to be and how you want to live.
Treat it as a blueprint to living your new life.
Set Yourself New and Exciting Goals
Get clear on what you want to achieve in the next 6 months, 1 year and 3 years.
Write down a plan you can follow to get there and the first few steps you can take right now to get you moving closer.
Once you have this blueprint, put all your energy into making it happen.
These goals are your new focus and your passion.
Become a Great Catch
A time will come when you’ll find yourself with someone special again.
Until then work on making yourself an awesome catch.
Focus your energy on being the best version of yourself you’ve ever been.
To get the best you need to deserve the best. To deserve the best you need to be your best.
You’ll be glad things turned out how they did.
You won’t think about your ex because you won't want them anymore. If their name ever comes again up you’ll reply “who?”
Great things are on their way to you. Live your best life and let them come.
Best Quotes About Forgetting Your ex
- “I mean, if the relationship can’t survive the long term, why on earth would it be worth my time and energy for the short term?” – Nicholas Sparks
- “To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose is the next best.” – William Makepeace Thackeray
- “He loved me. He loved me, but he doesn’t love me anymore, and it’s not the end of the world.” – Jennifer Weiner
- “Everyone’s allowed to be in love with the wrong person at some point. In fact, it’s a mistake not to be.” – Harriet Evans
- “Hearts live by being wounded.” – Oscar Wilde
- “What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else.” – Stephanie Klein