When You Think You Don't Matter, Read This!
If you’re reading this post and you feel like you don’t matter, you’re not alone.
Everyone has times when they feel that way.
Sometimes we feel like we don't matter, other times we feel jubilant and unstoppable.
When you feel like you don’t matter, remember that it’s not personal, it's not a fact.
It doesn’t mean you’re hopeless, and it doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around.
If you were living your best life you wouldn’t feel like you don’t matter.
So, how are you living your life?
Why do you feel like you don't matter and what evidence do you have to supports your claim?
Do you live your life like a person who matters?
Where do you invest your time?
Are your daily habits aligned with your goals and objectives?
Do you even have goals and objectives?
In my own experience, I feel hopeless when I have a list of goals and objectives and I don't feel like I'm making any progress.
It’s frustrating when you’re putting in the work but you still feel like you’re not getting anywhere.
When you feel like you don’t matter, redirect your focus.
Maybe you’ve done something you’re not proud of, or things just aren’t going your way.
Instead of thinking about why you don’t matter, think about why you do matter because you do.
You're More Important Than You Think
We are our own worst critics. No one can be as harsh to us as we can be to ourselves.
Whatever you think of yourself, remember you’re always more than that.
You matter to people and things you don’t even realize.
Think about the special people you have in your life and how they would feel if you weren't here anymore.
This is a common theme with high achievers.
When they haven’t yet achieved what they set out for they feel like losers.
They feel like they’re just not good enough. They feel like a failure, like they don’t matter.
But high achievers use that same dissatisfaction as motivation to keep pushing forward towards their end goal.
You also have people who feel like they don’t matter because of low self-esteem.
They have no meaningful goals or objectives, or they simply haven’t done anything that makes them feel proud and self-confident.
You Can Learn What You Need
If you feel like you don’t matter, follow that statement up with “because…”
I don’t matter because …..
Now think about what you would have to do, and who you would have to be to feel proud of yourself.
Whatever your reason for feeling like you don’t matter, you can turn it around.
Forget the thought that you don’t matter and instead decide who you want to be and what you want to do with your life.
What steps do you have to take to get there? What skills and abilities do you need to cultivate?
Decide what you want and how you’ll get there then get started.
If you’re committed to your own success, you’ll be willing to do what needs to be done.
You'll make the necessary sacrifices, and you'll keep working hard until you get what you set out for.
Don't Judge Yourself Harshly
One of the most common reasons people feel like they don’t matter anymore is regret and shame from their past.
We go over our past mistakes and failures again and again in our minds, turning a one-time event into a daily occurrence.
People relive their worst moments in their minds hundreds of times, sometimes for many years.
Until we can find a greater meaning to our past suffering we’ll continue to be haunted by it.
First of all, give yourself a break.
You’re not the same person now that you used to be.
If you did things in your past that affect your self-esteem and value today, change the way you’re seeing things.
What can you learn from the experience and how can you use that to be a better human being in the future?
Don't Always Believe Your Self-Talk
That voice in the back of your head, the one that likes to remind you how worthless you are, it doesn’t always tell the truth.
Your own worst enemy is yourself.
If you let that voice become the dominant voice in your head you eventually lose your self-respect, motivation, and purpose.
You simply can’t find real success when you feel like you’re not good enough, or that you don’t matter.
The best way to use that voice inside your head is as a coach or a motivator.
When you feel like you’re not good enough, take that as a signal that you’re not being who you could be.
Take it as a message to pick up your game and become a more effective human being.
Renew your goals and your determination to get them.
Most of the time that inner voice comes from fear of failure. The only way to really fail is to never try anything.
The solution: decide what you want and take action.
Get yourself out of inertia and self sorrow by focusing on bettering yourself, and making meaningful progress on your goals.
Failure is Better Than Regret
Someone Out There Likes You
However low you feel about yourself, know that there’s someone out there who thinks the world of you.
They don’t see you as you see yourself.
If you really didn’t matter, everyone would agree.
The fact that people like and love you tells you that you have value, that you do matter.
That’s why I always make a point to acknowledge people and be nice.
You never know what someone’s going through in their personal life.
Sometimes a show of kindness is all it takes to change someone's day.
You lift their spirits, and to make them think “hey maybe I do matter, maybe I’m not so bad after all”.
Let Happiness Find You
When you’re feeling down on yourself and you think you don’t matter, remember that any moment something great can happen for you.
A positive life-changing event could be just around the corner.
Life can change quickly, and nothing stays the same forever.
Today you feel like you don’t matter but tomorrow you could be king of the world.
Sometimes the doorway to happiness, personal fulfillment, and success is right in front of you, but you can’t see it.
You’re too caught up in self-pity and thinking you’re less than you actually are.
Open your eyes to what’s going on around you.
Opportunities are everywhere when you take the time to look.
The Most Important Person in Your Life is You
When people tell me they feel like they don’t matter, what they’re saying is they feel like they’re not living up to a predefined notion of who they should be.
Peer groups, family, and society all have expectations for how we should live our lives.
But the most important person is yourself.
You have to put yourself first. You have to invest time in self-development, improvement, and your own quality of life.
If you’re not at your best, how can you give your best to the people around you?
Try being the best version of yourself that you can be.
It's more challenging than it sounds and it's not always easy to make the shift.
You need to be aware of your values, beliefs, and goals.
Set goals, read books, get educated, and experience the excitement that life can offer.
Put your own personal excellence at the top of your list of priorities.
When you do it will have a positive effect on not only your life but also the lives of everyone around you.
Release Your Inner Lion
What if you completely turned your life around?
You left your boring job to follow your true calling, spent more time doing what makes you happy, and decided to live like a lion instead of a mouse?
How would you feel about yourself?
No doubt, no shame, no self-pity.
No more thinking that you don’t matter.
You have a lion inside of you. Wake it up. Let it roar.
11 Affirmations To Remind Yourself You Matter
- “The only person that can stop me is myself”
- “I am so much better than I think I am”
- “I am loved”
- “I am a champion to the bone”
- “Whatever I can conceive and work hard for, I can have”
- “I am the CEO of my life”
- “I am intelligent, interesting, sexy and fun”
- “I can have whatever I'm willing to work for”
- “I am the epitome of excellence”
- “Every day I’m getting closer to where I want to be”
- “Something great is about to happen”
Best Quotes About Why You Matter
“Care about people’s approval, and you will always be their prisoner” – Lao Tzu
“Some people say you are going the wrong way when it’s simply a way of your own” – Angelina Jolie
“You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!” – Olin Miller
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing” – Aristotle