10 Smart Ways to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

10 Smart Ways to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Key Points

  • Self-pity is wallowing in your own misery and feeling sorry for yourself. It’s a trap that successful people don’t fall into.
  • When we own up to our mistakes, we show that we’re capable of growth and learning.
  • We can always improve any part of our lives, and they don’t have to be tremendous accomplishments.
  • You can be sad and wallow in self-pity, or you can choose to see things a different way.

Some Self-Doubt is OK

There’s nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself every once in a while. In fact, it can be healthy to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself some time to process them.  However, suppose you’re wallowing in self-pity and not making any progress towards getting better.

In that case, it may be time to take a step back and reevaluate your approach. It’s OK to feel sorry for yourself, but don’t let it become a crutch that keeps you from moving forward.

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

Successful People Don’t Do Self-Pity

Whenever I read about or talk to a successful person, they never seem to wallow in self-pity. In fact, they usually don’t even mention their hardships at all.  Instead, they focus on what they’ve learned and how they’ve grown.

It’s an impressive quality that I really admire. And it’s one of the reasons why they’re so successful. Self-pity is wallowing in your own misery and feeling sorry for yourself. It’s a trap that successful people don’t fall into.

Here’s How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself…

1. Get Fed Up

We all have those moments when we get fed up with ourselves and our lives. We feel stuck in a rut and can’t seem to break out of it. But if you really want to change your life, you have to start by getting fed up with yourself.

If you’re unhappy with your life, it’s time to make a changeIf you’re unhappy with your life, it’s time to make a change. But don’t just sit around and complain – do something about it! Get fed up with yourself and your excuses, and start working towards the life you want to live.

“Self-pity is never useful. It tends to distort like a fun-house mirror”Anne Roiphe

2. Admit Your Mistake

We all make mistakes, but admitting them can be tricky for some of us. It feels like we’re exposing ourselves to criticism and judgment from others.  But the reality is that acknowledging our wrongdoings can actually make us feel better about ourselves.

When we own up to our mistakes, we show that we’re capable of growth and learning. And that’s a good thing! So don’t be afraid to admit your mistakes – it might just make you feel better in the long run.

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3. Solutions Not Problems

None of us are perfect. We all make mistakes, and sometimes life throws us a curveball. That’s just the way it goes. But when we find ourselves in difficult situations, it’s essential to take responsibility for our own actions – and not try to blame others.

If we want to move on and improve our lives, we need to own up to our choices. Only then can we start making positive changes. So don’t be afraid to face your problems – they can only be solved if you’re honest about them. Trust me, I know from experience!

4. Decide What You Want

You have probably had moments where everything just feels right in your life. You’re in sync with the world, and everything feels within reach.  These moments are usually associated with having a clear goal in mind.

When you know what you want to achieve, you feel good about yourself, motivated to take action.  Without a goal, or worse yet, life can feel like one big drag when you’re chasing dreams that really don’t mean much to you.

“In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, ‘Listen, I have to be responsible for myself.’ – Howard Schultz

5. Stay Busy

The old saying goes, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground.” When you’re feeling down on yourself, the worse thing you can do is sit and do nothing. The more productive you can be and the more responsibility you take on, the better you feel about yourself and the more positive your outlook on life becomes.

An excellent way to stay busy is to write a list for the day of everything you could possibly hope to get done and then plow through that list. I’ve found that the best way out of any problem is positive action towards a better outcome.

Staying busy moves your focus away from feeling down and helps form new habits and even a new mindset focused on being productive more than anything else.

6. Hit the Gym

Hit the gym if you want to change your state from a defeatist mindset to a champion mindset! The benefits to your mood and self-confidence are off the charts, and your mental and physical health will be the best it’s ever been.

When your sole focus is being the best version of yourself you can be, you don’t have time to waste feeling sorry for yourself. There’s too much to do, positivity to share, and too much life to live!

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.”Helen Keller

7. Do Difficult Stuff

The love of ease is a poverty trap. It leads to laziness, and your self-discipline starts to fade. The term ‘poverty trap’ means that the same mindset that opts for ease over effort will leave you poor in every way, spiritually, emotionally, and financially.

But when you attempt difficult things that require effort and thought on your part, your entire life can begin to change for the better. Not only will you feel good about yourself, but you’ll also make progress on your most important goals that you weren’t having any success with before.

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

8. Re-frame Your Reality

Re-framing is the 8th wonder of the world. Re-framing is changing the way you perceive an experience to give it more empowering meaning that you can benefit from. For example, your partner dumps you. You can be sad and wallow in self-pity, or you can choose to see things a different way.

Maybe they did you a favor by getting out of your life. Now you can design your life how you want it and be honest about the relationship, which wasn’t so strong, to begin with, if it ended in a breakup.

Re-framing is taking whatever happens to you and changing the meaning into something that can benefit you. Remember to constantly re-frame your reality into what you want it to be.

“I tell people to monitor their self-pity. Self-pity is very unattractive”Patty Duke

9. Be Around Your People

When you feel sorry for yourself, you don’t feel like associating with other people. But the smartest thing you can do is be around positive people you feel comfortable with. Firstly, talking to people about whatever’s on your mind can make you feel better about yourself.

And you can gain some insight by listening to what they have to say and seeing if it fits with your own life. Being around someone with a high-frequency energy field can lift your spirits and re-awaken something inside you that’s been dormant for a while.

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10. Get a Life!

No, seriously, get a life. If you feel sorry for yourself and fed up with your situation, change everything! Literally, get a new life! Get a new look, travel somewhere new, meet new people, take your career in a new direction, and see how far you can take your goals and dreams.

We can always improve any part of our lives, and they don’t have to be tremendous accomplishments. Minor positive improvements over time will make such a difference that you’ll wake up and not recognize yourself one day.

You’ll look around and realize the life you’re now living is the same life you used to dream about having. Be bold and brave and go for what you believe in. Even if it means sacrificing a few things along the way, it will be worth it.

“Self-pity is a disease which does not kill but corrodes.”- Aidan Chambers

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