Live With Passion and Stop Beating Yourself Up!
- We’re always looking for ways to criticize and downplay our accomplishments while magnifying our failures.
- Focus, strength, and confidence all stem from self-love.
- Your mood is created by certain chemicals released in your brain.
- Your inner talk and focus determine your experience.
Why Do We Beat Ourselves Up?
Are we hardwired to be our own worst enemies? We seem to be always looking for ways to criticize and downplay our accomplishments while magnifying our failures. But why do we do this to ourselves? And more importantly, how can we stop it?
There are many reasons we beat ourselves up or judge ourselves harshly. Whether it’s our past mistakes or unrealistic expectations that we have, we’re very good at criticizing ourselves. Sometime’s we probably deserve to hear it. But it doesn’t solve any problems or make anything better.
Is There a Better Alternative?
The better alternative to beating ourselves up is self-understanding and love. From that comes everything positive. Focus, strength, confidence, and determination all stem from self-love. But it’s not always easy.
We’ve been beating ourselves up for so long it’s become second nature, but not anymore. We can stop being hard on ourselves and live with passion by taking action towards the life we want.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” — Buddha
10 Reasons to Stop Beating Yourself Up
1. You’ll Be More Succesful
You’ll never get close to your potential if you don’t even like yourself. Many patients say, “of course I like myself,” but when they stop to think about their thoughts and actions, it’s true. They don’t like themselves.
When you stop beating yourself up, you can change focus from the negative to the positive. Once your mind becomes clear, you can work on your goals and engage with life from a place of abundance.
2. More Opportunity
Opportunities surround us at all times. But if we’re not in the right mindset, feeling depressed or sad, our consciousness doesn’t allow us to see them. But when you start practicing self-love, the lens you view life through starts to change.
Opportunities relevant to your goals become more noticeable, and you have the personal energy and power to seize them and make them a reality.
3. Better Health
It’s a fact that your brain chemicals and your physical health are intricately connected. Your mood is created by certain chemicals released in your brain.
Some chemicals make you feel great, like dopamine and serotonin. When you feel good, it’s because your brain is releasing feel-good chemicals throughout every cell of your body. But when your brain has low levels of these same chemicals, you start to feel sad and depressed.
Your entire mind and body thrive on positive brain chemicals, and you will notice your mental and physical health improving when you start being kind to yourself.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” — Stephen Chbosky
When you think better thoughts, you make better decisions. You can’t make money if you’re busy beating up on yourself and feeling lousy about life. But with self-confidence and motivation, you can become unstoppable.
When you start thinking correctly, your financial choices will be far superior to when you’re beating yourself up and giving yourself a hard time. You’ll be amazed at how quickly you can accumulate more money once you have clarity and focus on your financial plan.
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5. Better Relationships
You’re a much more likable person when you’re not moping around feeling sorry for yourself. Self-pity is the most counterproductive thing you can do. You can’t have the best in life if you don’t think you deserve it.
The same goes with the people you attract and allow into your life. They will be a reflection of you, to a large degree. While you might have people who love you, no one wants to be around negativity all the time.
A defeatist attitude repels positive and successful people because they know how dangerous it is.
6. More Self Confidence
When you feel good, life is an awesome adventure. But when you don’t, it can be a miserable experience. You can’t succeed without confidence, and you can’t have belief without self-love.
When you remove self-defeat from your mindset, you can improve everything around you. Confident people enjoy themselves more and have less pain in their lives. They become more successful than negative people who don’t like themselves.
“No other love no matter how genuine it is can fulfill one’s heart better than unconditional self-love.” — Edmond Mbiaka
7. Positive Energy
Self-love and positive energy are the essential ingredients to living a happy and fulfilled life. The problem is that while you’re beating yourself up, you’re not getting any self-love or positive energy.
The harm caused by negative emotions goes beyond what you can see. They affect every cell in your body. It’s best to radiate self-love, but you can’t when your focus is on negativity. You have to choose one or the other.
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8. To Release Your Past
One of the most common causes of beating ourselves up is regret or shame about the past. Whether it’s something we did or something that was done, as long as we hold onto it, we’ll never be free to move forward with a clear heart or mind.
What happened happened. It’s in the past, but you bring it into the present day every time you relive it. Releasing doesn’t mean forgetting. Some memories will be with us forever, but we can choose to see them from a new perspective, one that empowers instead of debilitates.
“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.” — Dan Pearce
9. To Achieve Your Goals
Achieving big goals is challenging. It takes a lot of focus, determination, energy, and self-discipline.
Beating yourself up keeps you from your goals because you’re giving so much energy and thought to it and doing it so often. Achieving goals takes sustained focus and implementation, and to keep going even when it feels like you’re getting nowhere.
10. To Enjoy the Beauty of Life
You influence your reality by how you think and what you choose to focus on. When you’re weighing yourself down with self-loathing or negative self-talk, you’re in trouble. If that’s where your consciousness is aimed, that’s all you’re going to get.
When you can refocus your aim away from the negative and more towards the positive, you can see the beautiful side of life and experience total abundance and joy.
“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” — Rupi Kaur
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