10 Most Obvious Signs Your Ex is Never Coming Back

10 Most Obvious Signs Your Ex is Never Coming Back

By Susan Suarez, B.SocSc.

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How Do You Know if Your Ex is Over You?

How do you know your ex is over you? Well, the fact you’re asking that question suggests that yes, they are over you.

But it’s not always that simple. People give mixed signals, we become blind to things we don’t want to accept, and who knows what’s going on in someone else’s head.

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When Should You Give Up on Your Ex?

The fact is that your relationship ended for a reason. You can try to get back what you once had, or you can accept it for what it is and move on with your life.

While moving on sounds simple enough and makes sense to your rational mind, your emotions keep you chained to the past, or a romantic view of the past, that clouds your judgment and keeps you stuck.

If you still have feelings for your ex, but those feelings aren’t reciprocated, it’s probably time to give up.

But before you make your final decision, run through this list and compare it with your situation.

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10 Ways How to Know They Aren’t Coming Back

1. Their Vibe Towards You Has Changed

When two people are in a harmonious relationship and totally into each other, they have electricity.

But the energy changes, and even after you break up, you can feel their vibe towards you if you see them.

If they’re distant, or it feels like staying in contact isn’t a priority for them, you have your answer as to whether they’re coming back or not.

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2. They’re With Someone Else

If your ex is with someone else, it means they don’t want to be with you.

A person’s actions are the most unambiguous indication of their true intentions. If they’ve moved on and they’re dating someone other than you, it’s over.

The longer you hold on, the more you suffer and the more time you waste.

3. They Left You in the First Place

If your ex chose to end the relationship, it means they’ve emotionally checked out.

It’s sad to see someone whose partner has left them, still pining for the ex, even after they’ve shown you they don’t wish to be with you anymore.

The best thing you can do in this situation is to sever all contact with them. No calls, no messages, nothing.

Let go and get on with your life.

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4. Your Ex Tells you to ‘Move on.’

Your ex telling you to find someone new and move on should be all you need to hear to accept that whatever you once had is over.

It hurts to hear someone you love telling you they don’t feel the same way about you anymore, especially when you think things are going well between you.

But you can’t make someone want you; only they can decide that.

Even though it’s painful to hear these words, keep in mind that they might be giving you the greatest gift; an opportunity to meet someone new who appreciates you and wants to be with you.

5. People Around You Say ‘Move on’

It’s easy to lose perspective of ourselves because we can’t see things clearly from the outside.

But people around you have a different view. They’re not influenced by emotion, disappointment, or brain chemicals.

They only see the objective fact; that you broke up for a reason (whatever it was), they’re not coming back, and that you should drop it and get on with living your life.

If people around you all have the same view don’t accept it right away, but think about it.

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6. They say ‘Let’s Be Friends

The words ‘let’s be friends’ is like saying ‘I’m not attracted to you in the same way I was, I don’t want to hurt you more than I have to so saying we can still be friends is to compensate for the fact I’m breaking your heart.’

Attraction isn’t a choice. If someone doesn’t want to be with you in a relationship, all the pleading and begging won’t change how they feel.

You have to be careful not to fall into the friend trap.

The friend trap is where you agree to be friends in the hope you can rekindle what you had, while they’re getting on with their life, and dating new people.

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7. They Don’t Want to Meet/Hangout

If you’ve broken up already but you’re still trying to salvage what you had, and your ex seems uninterested in meeting up with you or hanging out, what does that tell you?

If someone is interested, they want to spend as much time with you, and they’ll find any way they can to make it happen.

When you find yourself in a position where your ex isn’t as keen to see you as you are, they’re probably not coming back.

8. Your Intuition Tells You it’s Over

Your intuition is there to guide you.

When your gut feeling is telling you it’s time to move on, the longer you resist and ignore it, the more emotional pain you’re creating for yourself.

It’s hard to face things that we don’t want to be true. But the longer you wait the worse it becomes. Try to take a balanced view of your relationship and breakup.

What does your intuition say?

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9. They Return Your Things

Returning your things is another sign the relationship could be over.

If your ex had any intention of coming back or trying to working out problems, they wouldn’t be giving your stuff back.

When someone decides they don’t have the same feelings for you, if you keep trying to change their mind (and heart), the worse it becomes.

At this point, it’s best you do the same.

Give them their things back, you take yours, and go your separate ways. There doesn’t have to be bad energy between you.

10. They’ve Blocked or Unfriended You

Being blocked or unfriended is a clear sign from your ex. The fact they don’t want to be in contact with you is all you need to know.

When people we like ignore us or aren’t interested in being with us, we tend to want them more.

But you have to see it for what it is. The only way to maintain your dignity is to forget about them and focus on living an extraordinary life.

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5 ways How to Move on

1. Decide You’re Done

Before you can move on with your life you have to decide you’re done, and you’re moving on.

2. Focus on Yourself

You should be your number one priority, not only after a breakup but at all times. Use this as an opportunity to focus on yourself.

3. Meet New People

What if your ex leaving you turns out to be the best thing that ever happened because it made room for someone even better to come into your life?

4. Move Somewhere New

Visual reminders of our past are everywhere around us.

A song, a picture, a location, or even a seemingly meaningless object that reminds you of someone or something.

The solution? Change your environment. Find new places to go, and if you have to, move somewhere entirely new.

5. Renovate Your Life

Renovating your life means giving yourself a complete overhaul.

Externally with your appearance and activities and internally with your thoughts, beliefs, and values.

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Things to Remember

  • People give mixed signals, and we become blind to things we don’t want to accept.
  • Don’t get hooked on one person; the world is full of people who would love to be with you.
  • If your ex is with someone else, it means they don’t want to be with you.
  • If your ex chose to end the relationship, it means that they’ve already emotionally checked out.
  • You can’t make someone want you; only they can decide that.
  • Attraction isn’t a choice. If someone doesn’t want to be with you, all the pleading and begging won’t change how they feel.
  • Put your emotions to the side and take a balanced view of your relationship and breakup.
  • You should be your number one priority, not only after a breakup but at all times.
  • Face the future with wide eyes and open arms.
  • Live with a champion mindset!

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Best Quotes About Letting Go of Your Ex

“Keeping baggage from the past will leave no room for happiness in the future.” — Wayne L. Misner

“If you really want closure … at some point, you have to shut the door.” — Jacki Wells Wunderlin

“The easiest way to teach someone how to treat you is to refuse to give them more opportunities to hurt you. Walk away …” — R.H. Sin

“If you lost it, it’s because you’re meant to find something better. Trust, let go, and make room for what’s coming.” — Mandy Hale

“I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.” – Fridtjof Nansen