21 Keys to Self-Love and Self-Esteem

21 Keys to Self-Love and Self-Esteem

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Key Points

  • Everyone has fears. Don’t worry about having fears; the important thing is how you handle them.
  • When you harbor grudges and resentment, you damage your own mental and emotional health.
  • You can’t move into the future if you’re still holding onto baggage from the past.

Self-Love and Self Esteem

People often ask why self-love and self-esteem are essential. Aren’t they just ego boosters? Why do we need them?

Self-love and self-esteem are vital because they help us feel good about ourselves. If we don’t love and respect ourselves, it isn’t easy to be happy or prosperous.

We need to learn how to take care of ourselves emotionally and mentally to achieve our goals.

When we feel good about ourselves, we attract positive things into our lives. It’s essential to nurture our minds and hearts to live a fulfilling life.

By improving our self-love and self-esteem, we can improve every aspect of our lives.

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Create an Abundance of Self-Esteem

Working with different people over the years, here are some of the best ways I’ve found to regain your self-love and esteem. 

1. Face Your Fears

Our fears hold us back, including things like fear of rejection and fear of failure.

Everyone has fears. Don’t worry about having fears; the important thing is handling them. Do we let them keep us in a box, or do we face them and enjoy all the beauty life offers?

2. Build Self-Belief

Self-belief is the foundation of any strong character and is something we all need more of. But without healthy levels of self-belief, we limit ourselves to staying stuck.

If you’ve ever experienced low points in life, you’ll know the feeling of losing hope. Building a prosperous and abundant life means backing yourself 100%, which you can’t do without solid self-belief.  

3. Forgive Yourself 

It’s tough to move on from our past mistakes, especially if we feel like we’ve let ourselves and others down. When you forgive yourself, you’re freeing yourself from the chains of negativity and guilt that are holding you back from achieving your goals.

When you harbor grudges and resentment, you damage your own mental and emotional health. By forgiving yourself, you are freeing yourself from the chains of the past and opening up the door to a brighter future.

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4. Focus on YOU

Self-love and self-esteem are essential to living a happy life. When you have high levels of self-love and self-esteem, you’re able to take on the world with more confidence. 

You’re also better equipped to handle adverse situations and criticism. However, many people struggle to achieve high levels of self-love and self-esteem. You’ll boost your self-love and self-esteem by focusing more on yourself.

5. Release Your Baggage

You cant move into the future if you’re still holding onto baggage you don’t need. It could be relationships, habits, or anything in your life that isn’t in your best interest.

The more emotional and psychological baggage we carry, the lower our feelings of self-worth will be. By releasing what’s weighing you down, you lighten your mind and clear a path in front of you to create a life you can enjoy, and that makes you feel proud.

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6. Daily Self-Talk

Start each day on the right foot. Prime your mind for the day by telling yourself positive statements. State how grateful you are, how great you look, or how today is a magical day, and no matter what, you’ll live it to the fullest.

You can make it fun because you’re reprogramming your mind with superior thinking over time.

7. Vibrant Health

Our self-esteem falls when we’re out of shape, and our mindset gets lazy. Robust health should be the foundation of your existence.

Without it, your options are limited, and the chance of succeeding long-term is minimal at best. After all, how can you be your best and achieve your biggest goal if you’re not operating at maximum efficiency?

“When we are stressed, we tend to do stupid things to ourselves.” — Jordan Peterson

8. Train Hard

The best way to support a foundation of health and nutrition is regular exercise. Without it, we’ll be hard-pressed to reach our full potential or even get close.

Regular exercise isn’t just about having a healthy and attractive body. It’s more about the mental health benefits of regular exercise. 

The endorphins and dopamine released through vigorous training have numerous health benefits, like more energy, concentration, and self-confidence.

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9. Think Critically

Critical thinking is the ability to evaluate information through logical thinking instead of impulsive, emotionally charged reactions. There’s so much information in the world, and these days it’s getting harder to know what’s true and what isn’t.

Critical thinking is about thinking for yourself, and you give yourself an edge when you evaluate and make decisions from this frame.

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” — Jean Shinoda Bolen

10. Good People

No one is an island. People need people, whether in an intimate relationship, a social exchange, or a business venture; without the right people around you, you’re toast!

So how do we define a “good person” that we want to be around? Meet people with an optimistic mindset who have a purpose or aim in their life that they’re actively trying to accomplish.

Good people rub off on you once you start spending time with them—your self-love and self-esteem rise and fall in line with your peer group.

11. Stop Comparing

You are you; you’re not them, so stop comparing yourself to others. What matters is who you are and what you’re aiming for.

It’s tempting to see someone we perceive as more successful than us and start comparing ourselves to them. But we never know their story, how they got where they are, and the price they had to pay along the way.

Use other people’s success as motivation, wish them unlimited success, then refocus back on yourself, your plans, and your goals.

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12. No Comfort Zone

Comfort zones are a trap. We’ve all been caught in a comfort zone; in fact, you’re probably living in one right now.

Comfort zones aren’t necessarily harmful, but when they keep us stuck in one place or allow us to forget about our ultimate purpose, they become a problem.

The longer you stay in your comfort zone, the lower your self-worth will become. We need to be in a state of action, pursuit, or accomplishment for our lives to have meaning. 

Start thinking of your comfort zone as an uncomfortable zone, one that you should avoid and always be mindful not to get stuck in.

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.” – Dr. Robert Anthony

13. Be Your Own Fan

You don’t need validation from anyone but yourself. Once you become your own fan and stop relying on other people to make you feel good, a funny thing happens.

When people see you’re self-confident and self-reliant, they feel drawn to you, as everyone wants to be like that, but few people are.

The less you care about what other people think about you and do your own thing, the more other people will respect you, and the higher your own self-respect will be.

14. A Calm Mind

Being hot-headed or impulsive can be dangerous. It only takes one wrong decision to ruin your whole life.

When you approach life and problems calmly, you can make better decisions and navigate through the world more effectively.

Stress and anxiety can lead to severe financial, emotional, and even mental problems. They eat away at your self-confidence and keep you from being the person you could be.

Meditation, stoicism, and spending time in nature or silence can calm your mind and help you live a more balanced and fulfilling life.

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15. Watch Your Thoughts

Your thoughts influence your reality. Most of the time, we’re on autopilot, not thinking but repeating established beliefs and experiences from the past.

But when you stop and observe your thoughts, you start to see exactly why your life is where it is. Once you identify some thoughts that aren’t helping you, you can start changing how you think.

By changing just a few thoughts and acting on them, you can dramatically improve your position in the world, improving self-love and restoring your self-esteem.

16. Have an Aim

Having a precise aim for your life is so essential that your life can fail without it. Having a precise aim doesn’t always mean having massive life-changing goals, though it can.

A clear and definite aim could be to connect with your kids more, make your partner feel loved and appreciated, and even buy a dog and move to a new location.

When you have a specific aim, your life starts to take shape around it; your mind deletes what doesn’t align with your ambitions and gathers all the resources you need to accomplish it. 

17. Be Nice

Next time you’re feeling down on yourself or just having a bad day, try being nice to people. When you’re nice to people, something happens in your brain: You feel better about yourself. 

Being nice could mean a smile or a thank you, or just letting someone know they’re valuable and you appreciate them. The best way to get is to give. If you want self-love, radiate love and positivity into the world. 

If you have low self-esteem, start complimenting others to boost their self-esteem, and yours will naturally increase too.

“It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.” – Sir Edmund Hillary

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18. Live Clean

We can’t control the world around us, but we can own our personal space. Psychologists say that our external environment is a reflection of our inner world. 

If we’re living in squalor, what does that say about our mindset and sense of self? Likewise, when your space is immaculate and in order, that reflects self-control and self-discipline.

We all feel better in a pleasant environment, and it doesn’t matter if you’re in a small room or a luxurious home. Tidy your space in a way that makes you feel good when you’re there.

19. Look Your Best

When we look good, we feel good. If your self-esteem has taken a beating lately, go out and treat yourself.

Get a new hairstyle, experiment with new looks and update your wardrobe, and start living healthier, so your body looks better, which always makes your clothes look better on you.

Start focusing more on your appearance and looking your best.  You never know who you might meet or what opportunities could come up, but when you always look good, you’ll be ready for it.

20. Commit to Change

One way of rebuilding self-esteem and self-love is making positive changes in your life and moving towards a vision for what you want your life to be.

When you know what you want and need to get there, you can remove anything else in your life that’s taking your time away. Please identify what you can change or make better in your life and start working on it piece by piece, day by day.

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21. Raise Your Bar

Personal standards set the frame of our reality by being guidelines or ‘standards’ that we work within. If you have low standards, you can never fly high. 

But if you have super high standards, which is excellent, and you don’t meet them, you can beat yourself up, which batters your self-esteem and self-love if you do it long enough.

“Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them. – T. Harv Eker

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