11 Tactics to Crush Self-Doubt and Anxiety
- Self-doubt and anxiety can be paralyzing and prevent us from reaching our full potential.
- When you pay attention to your thoughts, you’ll notice that most of them are just noise.
- Fear is often seen as a negative emotion, but it can be beneficial when you use it properly.
- Success doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep it simple and get it done!
Why Do I Doubt Myself?
Self-doubt and anxiety make you question your abilities and whether or not you are even good enough. When self-doubt gets out of control, it wreaks havoc in your life by holding you back from doing the right things.
Why do we do it to ourselves? And more importantly, how can we stop it? This post answers those questions.
Why Am I So Anxious?
Everywhere around us, anxiety seems to be rising. Whether it is a generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, or panic attacks, more people take anti-anxiety meds than ever before in history. So what is causing all of this anxiety, and how can we deal with it?
There is no one answer to this question because the experience of anxiety is different for everyone. Whatever the cause, being anxious and self-critical can become a real problem, and the longer it goes on the harder it is to overcome.
How Do I Get Rid of Self-Doubt?
There are a lot of things you can do to start overcoming your self-doubt, but here are the top;
Remember Your Glory Times
No matter how confident you are on the surface, we all have moments of self-doubt. Negative thoughts can spiral out of control and blind you to all the good around you, and before you know it, you’re convinced that you’re not good enough.
One way to combat your doubts is by recalling your past glories and wins. Remind yourself why you deserve the best that life offers and that you’re a true champion to your core. No one is perfect, so give yourself a break and remember your glory times. There’s more to come.
“Let all your moments of self-doubt, fear, or disappointment fuel your drive to be great.” – Devin McCourty
We get bombarded by an endless scroll of images of people who appear to have perfect lives. They are always thin, have perfect hair, and seem to be smiling. We see their posts on social media and can’t help but feel a sense of self-doubt and anxiety. We ask ourselves why we don’t look like that or why our lives don’t seem perfect.
Comparison is the thief of joy, and it can lead to a lot of self-doubt and anxiety. So, how can we stop comparing? You could cut back on social media or delete it altogether. Think less about other people and what they’re doing, and focus on being the best version of yourself.
Observe Your Thoughts
When you pay attention to your thoughts, you’ll notice that most of them are just noise. They don’t mean anything, and they’re not helpful. In fact most of the time, your erroneous thoughts are what created your self-doubt and anxiety in the first place.
But when you observe your thoughts, you can recognize any harmful patterns and then start letting them go. As soon as you realize the thoughts that aren’t serving you, they lose their power over you. And with practice, it becomes easier and more manageable.
Soon, you’ll find that your mind is calmer and more peaceful. You may even start to enjoy the quiet moments of peace from simply observing your thoughts.
Don’t let your mind fool you. When you realize how tricky and skewed your thoughts can be, you won’t be so quick to believe them as fact.
“The moment you feel yourself hesitate on something you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1 to activate your prefrontal cortex and interrupt the habit of overthinking, self-doubt, and fear.” – Mel Robbins
Success is something that we all strive for in our lives in one way or another. It means different things to different people. Still, the common denominator is that most people want to feel like they have accomplished something and contributed somehow.
But what happens when you don’t feel successful? What if you’re constantly doubting yourself and your abilities? Luckily, you can do a few things to feel better about yourself. One of those things is learning more about what it means to be successful.
Once you have a firmer understanding of success, it will be easier to work towards. And once you start achieving small successes, you’ll have the momentum and confidence to start working on bigger ones.
Acknowledge Your Darkest Fears
Fear is often seen as a negative emotion, but it can be beneficial if you use it properly. One of the most important things we can do is acknowledge our fears. When we try to push them down and ignore them, they often come back up to haunt us in the form of anxiety or self-doubt.
By recognizing your fears, you can begin to understand why they are there and start work on managing them. This can be an incredibly freeing experience and can help reduce the amount of anxiety and self-doubt you feel.
“The temptation to quit and start over infects every creative process I’ve ever been in. Frustration and boredom always fuel this self-doubt.” – Bert Lopez
Get to Know Your Shadow
Have you ever heard of your shadow self? It’s a term in psychology to describe the parts of our personality that we hide from other people. The shadow self is the part of us that we’re ashamed of and afraid others will find out about.
It’s the part that we’re embarrassed by and try to keep hidden. But hiding your shadow self only makes you feel worse. When you IGNORE your shadow self, it festers and grows until it becomes an uncontrollable monster inside your head. You don’t want that, it is not a nice place to be.
Getting to know your shadow self can make you feel less alone and more in control of your emotions, more accepting of yourself, and less doubtful and anxious in your everyday life.
Talk to a Pro
Talking to a qualified professional may be the next step if you struggle with self-doubt and anxiety. An experienced advisor or psychologist can help you understand your doubts and fears and give you the tools you need to overcome them.
Many people suffer from bouts of self-doubt and anxiety. These emotions are crippling and prevent people from living their lives to the full. Thankfully, there are resources out there to help.
The most important thing is don’t suffer in silence. Reach out and get help to solve your problems.
“I can’t think of anyone I admire who isn’t fuelled by self-doubt. It’s an essential ingredient. It’s the grit in the oyster.” – Richard Eyre
Prune Your Peer Group
Pruning your peer group means removing toxic or unwholesome people from your life (or spending less time with them). Be around positive people who motivate you and build you up rather than tear you down.
Doubt and pessimism can be debilitating when we indulge in them too much. A supportive group of friends can help us feel more confident and provide a sense of connection that can buffer us from the harmful effects of anxiety and self-doubt.
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Set Big Goals
You’re just not good enough. You can’t do anything right. And no matter what you do, you’ll always be a failure! These are common thoughts and feelings for everybody and are a by-product of self-doubt and anxiety.
But there is a way to counter negative thoughts like these – become obsessed with a big goal. When you set challenging but achievable goals that really excite you, it gives you purpose and confidence. And once you achieve your goal, it reinforces and multiplies the most positive feelings inside you.
“Belief in oneself is incredibly infectious. It generates momentum, the collective force of which far outweighs any kernel of self-doubt that may creep in.” – Aimee Mullins
Keep a Perspective
Keeping a perspective on your life and your place in the world can help you manage negative emotions and overcome them. Remember that you are just one person in an expansive universe.
Your problems might not be so insurmountable after all. You are also not alone in feeling self-doubt or anxiety; so many people think this way at some point in their lives. When you really get that, you can begin to put your struggles into context, finding the inner strength to work through them.
Less Thought More Action
One big thing is to stop overthinking things and just take action. When you move towards your goals, even small ones, it builds confidence and helps erase any doubts holding you back.
Success doesn’t have to be complicated. Just keep it simple and get it done!
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