Is She Mad at You?
When your girlfriends mad at you, you’ll definitely know about it.
You might not know why, but you’ll know she’s mad.
Don’t get frustrated. Stay cool. You’d be surprised how easily you can make things right again.
It’s all about communication and intent. What does that mean? This article will show you.
When you understand and apply these rules you’ll have a much happier girlfriend.
What more could you want right?
Read on …
What's Her Reason?
If your girlfriend is mad at you she has a reason. There’s always a reason.
You might have no idea what it is.
It might seem totally unreasonable to you. But trust me, she has a reason.
The first thing you need to do is to find out exactly what that reason is in her mind.
Remember no one sees the world in exactly the same way so don’t assume you know what she’s thinking or feeling.
Once you know the reason she's mad you can make it better so she's not mad anymore, becoming once again the amazing woman you know and love.
What Do You Say When She’s Mad?
What you say will depend on why she's mad. A good rule of thumb is that whatever you do say, tell the truth.
If you’ve made a mistake, own it.
You might have unintentionally offended her, and if that’s the case, acknowledge it and apologise.
The list of reasons why she’s mad at you could be endless. Don’t try to figure it out, you never will.
Most articles on this topic suggest cute words you can say to your girlfriend to make her feel good.
That counts, but words are useless if they’re not backed by genuine intent and action.
How Do You Get Her to Forgive You?
That depends on what you’ve done.
While women can seem totally unreasonable at times, they’re actually quite reasonable once they calm down a bit.
If you can hear her out then explain your side, acknowledge your part and show her your intention wasn’t to hurt her, that that would never be your intention, she’s likely to open up towards you.
The best thing any guy can do when she gets mad is to give her some space.
Don’t buy into drama or defend yourself when she’s at the height of her emotional distress. She won’t hear you. Let her be for a while.
Go and do something else and come back later to sort it out.
Why Is She Being So Cold?
She’s cold because she’s angry with you, and she’s angry because she’s hurt.
If you have a girlfriend who’s cold because of a specific reason, and only on occasion, sort it out.
But if she's cold, period, it might be time to ask yourself if she’s the right woman for you to be with.
If you’re in the wrong and you’ve already apologised, and she’s still cold towards you that’s a red flag.
Her behavior symbolizes deeper issues that you probably don’t want to deal with.
You can make that decision. If she’s cold for a reason and you can alleviate that, great.
If she’s cold towards you beyond that for the sole purpose of making your life difficult then you might want to reconsider.
10 Things to Do When She's Mad
1. Find out why
Before you can solve any problem you need to know what the problem is.
As we've already covered, your perception of why she’s mad will be very different from why she’s really mad.
Calmly ask her to explain why she’s mad at you and listen to what she says.
Before you respond take a moment to absorb and understand what she’s telling you. Then repeat it back to her.
This in itself will calm her down. Sometimes hearing our own thinking repeated back to us highlights flaws in our argument.
Make sure she knows that you understand why she’s mad, in her words, before you start to explain yourself and clear things up.
Remember guys, women want to know you acknowledge how they feel without judging them. When she’s talking just listen.
2. Don't Make it a Drama
The worst thing you can do is get drawn into a drama and increase the emotional intensity of the situation.
Your role as a man is to stay calm and solid, and not let your boat get rocked by her emotional volatility.
Regardless of how emotionally worked up she is, stay calm and stoic.
3. Listen and Show Empathy
When she’s telling you why she’s mad try to see things from her point of view.
To you, her being upset might seem bizarre, but in her mind, it isn’t.
It’s normal and she doesn’t know why you just don’t get it.
Showing empathy to your girlfriend's thoughts and feeling tells her you care and gives you an idea of what she's feeling.
4. Remind Her You Love Her
When your girlfriends mad she’s emotionally vulnerable.
Let her know that she’s important and you love her even when she’s mad.
She might not say it at the time but she’ll remember it and reward you for it later.
Women desire men who can stand strong in the face of challenging adversity.
When she’s mad just straight out tell her that even though she’s mad at you she’s still important to you and you value her and love her.
Say it and mean it.
This alone, many times, is enough to change her state from being mad to being something less than mad.
5. Don't Be Too Serious
Humour is a great way to break the tension and keep your woman interested.
Don’t make fun of her or how ridiculous you think she’s being.
If anything, make fun of yourself. “Wow, I had no idea I was such an idiot”. Or “What would I do without you! you highlight my stupidity and make me a better man, thank you baby I love you”.
Be playful and add some fun to the moment. Don’t direct your humor towards her, she’ll only feel madder at you because you just "don’t get it”.
Focus the humour on yourself and the situation, don’t make it personal.
6. Hold Her and Show Affection
When your girlfriends mad at you, nothing can be resolved.
You need to be able to effectively change her state to something less than mad before you bring her back to sanity.
When she’s mad, what if you walked up to her and gave her a huge heartfelt hug and just held on to her.
If she’s at peak madness she might push you away, but most of the time she’ll surrender.
The gesture of a heartfelt hug sends so many positive messages to her about you that she can’t help but feel better.
Feeling your arms around her and the love and warmth between you is probably what she wanted most in the first place.
You’re just doing it without her having to ask “ah” she now thinks, “I have the perfect man! Maybe I shouldn't be so mad after all”.
7. Suggest a Solution
Men are solution-oriented, women are emotionally oriented.
When your girlfriend is talking to you about the bad day she's had, she doesn’t want your solutions on how she could have handled it better, she wants you to shut up and listen.
Yes, listen. That’s it.
When she’s mad at you she’s stuck in the problem. You want to tactfully get her to see the solution.
What this means is that if she’s mad at you for xyz, acknowledge her and show her that in the future things will be different and this won’t happen anymore.
That moves her from the past and the now (negative) to how things will be better in the future (positive), which induces a state change almost immediately.
Sometimes an apology is all it takes to make things right again.
A genuine apology will take her from feeling mad and misunderstood to feeling acknowledged and validated.
Your apology is a lot more than saying the word sorry.
When your apology is genuine it shows you can put your ego aside and consider her feelings and how your actions have affected her.
Of course only apologise if you’ve done something you need to apologise for, not just to suck up to her.
9. Step up as Her Man
When your woman is at her most vulnerable emotionally, it’s time for you to step up.
That's one of the reasons the feminine desires the masculine.
The ability to stay the course, work through the challenge, and take action and solve the problem.
Stepping up as her man means being the better person.
You can scream and protest your case and make a drama or you can maintain self-control, articulate your point of view and apologise, or if she’s just too mad to hear any of that, walk away.
10. If You're Wrong, Own It
Personal responsibility is a key component of being a successful human being.
Likewise, with your girlfriend, you need to take some responsibility.
If you’ve hurt her feelings or offended her, own it. Admit you’re in the wrong. Don’t waste time arguing about small details.
Use the opportunity to identify something in yourself you can improve.
You become a better boyfriend by being a better man.
If your girlfriends mad, she’s mad. You can let it ruin your day or you can implement a few simple strategies from this article and your life will be a whole lot better.
The choice is always yours.
Quotes About How to Stop Your Girlfriend Getting Mad
“Immature love says ‘I love you because I need you’. Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’.” – Erich Fromm
“I don’t have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who’d be mad at me for saying that.” – Mitch Hedberg
“Every relationship has its problems but what makes it perfect is when you still want to be there when everything goes wrong.” -Ritu Ghatourey
“Every relationship needs an argument every now and then. Just to prove that it is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.” -Melchor Lim“Problems should be like speed bumps. You slow down just to get over it, but you don’t let it stop you from heading to your destination. -Sonya Parker