How to Get Your Life Together
Chris Savage // Reliable Strategies
It's Time to Get Yourself Together
How do you know when it's time to get your life together?
You’re not as happy as you used to be in your relationship, your job has become boring and repetitive, or your goals are eluding you.
These are all signs it’s time to make changes.
Sometimes a tragedy or a series of unfortunate events unfolds and life starts falling apart.
Other times it’s a slow process of decay.
We let our standards fall, pick up bad habits, or get lazy and complacent.
You have a choice. Allow yourself to be a victim of circumstance, or decide “Enough. It’s time to make a change, now”.
When you make a firm decision to take positive action you can start putting yourself back together.
Use your dissatisfaction as fuel to pick yourself up and get moving again.
You can make an amazing new life for yourself if you want it bad enough, and you’re willing to work for it.
What Does It All Mean?
Getting your life together involves doing a self-audit on yourself.
What that means is taking a good look at yourself and your life.
You're identifying what habits and behaviours are helping you and which ones are hurting you.
If you’ve been in a slump, why?
What did you do that got you there in the first place?
Are there parts of yourself that are holding you back from everything you say you want?
What are the characteristics and qualities you need to adapt to be your best self and create your best life?
Stop for a moment and answer these questions honestly.
Getting your life together starts with assessing where you are now compared to where you want to be, then making a commitment to positive change.
How to Get Your Life on Track
You get your life back on track by gaining clarity on;
a) Where you are now?
b) where you want to be?
Set your goals and objectives based on your answers.
They can be small goals and large. Long term and short.
Goals give you clarity in that they tell your brain what to aim for.
They give you a benchmark to measure your progress.
What's the First Step?
Start by cutting out everything from your life that isn't related to your goals and the life you want to have.
That means people, places, habits, activities, and even the books you read.
The only thing that will help you put your life together is getting yourself together first.
Albert Einstein said that you can’t solve a problem with the same mind that created the problem.
If you want things to be better, you have to become better.
You have to evolve mentally, emotionally and spiritually beyond your problems.
How You Can Live Your Best Life
Living your best life means having a meaning and a purpose aligned with your true nature and your values.
You’re working towards something worthwhile.
You invest your time in activities that you find interesting and relevant.
You’ve resolved your self-destructive habits.
You're progressing on your goals, and you're living, first and foremost, for your best self.
How do you get to this point? Incremental improvements, one step at a time.Aristotle said back in 380BC “Excellence is a habit”.
You don’t live your best life by doing one thing, once.
You do it by developing the right habits and repeating them day after day.
What Are You Doing With Yourself?
Are you living your life in a state of pleasure, appreciation, and abundance?
Or are you down and out, unhappy and defeated?
Do you invest your time in productive activities that move you closer to where you want to be?
Or are you stuck in a self-destructive routine full of negativity?
You’re always capable of becoming more.
The only limit being how you think and the way you see yourself (self-identity).
If you think you can’t get your life back on track and you see yourself as a loser, that's what manifests for you.
But when you think with a growth mindset, you know things will get better and the responsibility to make it happen is on you.
That's whenyou can have control over the direction of your life.
What’s Your Purpose?
Do you have a clearly defined purpose for your life?
It’s a big question and not many people have a straight answer.
Think about it for a moment. What's your overriding life purpose?
Some people might say their kids or their family, which is great.
But what’s YOUR life’s purpose?
We all want to see our families prosper and thrive in health and happiness.
But all too often people give their personal dreams and goals the back seat.
They spend their life living for others and not themselves.
I believe every human being must find their purpose and dedicate themselves to it.
You can do your job, career, family and everything else.
But underlying everything, deep in your soul, you need to have your own purpose for being.
17 Ways to Get Your Life Together
1. Define Your Purpose
You must know what you want.
If you don’t have a clear target you float through life like a jellyfish in the ocean, going where the tide takes you.
Defining your purpose gives structure to your life and a blueprint for your brain to follow.
With a defined purpose you align your thoughts, behaviours, and character to the accomplishment of that purpose.
2. Don't Blame or Complain
Complaining and pointing the finger holds you back from success.
What happened happened. The people you want to blame might have done the wrong thing.
They might have been evil and purposely tried to hurt you.
But how did to contribute to the problem?
How do you expect to get your life together and grow into your future if you’re unwilling to take responsibility?
That doesn’t mean you have to like what happened or even that you have to forgive anyone.
It means you acknowledge that if anything good is going to happen from here on, it’s on you to make it happen.
The past is the past, leave it there.
Focus on what you can do today to make a better tomorrow for yourself and the people you care about.
3. Have a Pro-Active Growth Mindset
Success and wellbeing have no place for laziness and procrastination.
Proactivity is a mindset.
You know what you need to do and you do it, whatever of however long it takes.
Being growth-minded means you view the world through a lens of optimism and empowerment.
It doesn’t mean fluffy positivity for positivity’s sake.
It means viewing yourself as a champion and being confident you’ll succeed.
4. Set Clear Achievable Goals
Goals are your blueprint for the future.
Without them, it could take you 20 years to accomplish what you could have done in 5.
Your goals sit just below your purpose and are the stepping stones necessary to make that purpose a reality.
A few key points about goals:
- Write them in the present tense
- Put a deadline on them
- Write them out every day
- Repeat them to yourself every day
- Formulate a plan to get them
- Take action towards them. If you don’t take action it's not a real goal.
5. Manage Your Time
Time management is key for successful people.
How much time do you waste in a day doing meaningless activities?
The most valuable resource we have is time.
Money? you can make more.
Relationships? you can always find another.
But time, once it’s gone it’s gone.
No refund, no exchange, once it’s gone you can never get it back.
When you have a clear life purpose and goals that align with that purpose, invest your time into making them real.
80% of your time should be spent working on your life’s purpose.
The remaining 20% can be for other activities.
Get a journal, use google calendar or write your day on post-it notes the night before.
Go into each new day with plan on how you'll spend your time on that day.
6. Get Your Health in Shape
Life is nothing if you haven’t got your physical and mental health in order.
To be your best you need a certain level of energy and alertness.
You won’t get that if you’re eating burgers and drinking beer every day, and not moving very much.
When your health is in good order, life flows a lot easier for you.
You respond to events more effectively, make better decisions, and your outlook is more optimistic.
7. Discover Your Self
Most people don’t know themselves.
They live on autopilot, unconsciously acting out the role they’ve been programmed to perform.
The ancient Greek philosopher Plato said, “Know thyself”.
Knowing yourself is to understand your strengths and weaknesses.
You're aware of what you’re already good at and what you need to improve in.
Self-discovery is finding out what your core values and beliefs are.
When you "know thyself", you know who you are, who you're becoming, and what type of life you want to live.
At its essence, self-discovery is getting to know yourself.As Alan Watts used to say “Who are you REALLY?”.
8. Follow Your Passion
Do more of what makes you happy, and less of what doesn’t.
You’ve already identified your purpose and set your goals. Now go after them, unashamedly.
Every day that passes is another day lost. If not now, when?
Worst-case scenario you try and fail. What then? Try another way.
Better to live with temporary failure than permanent regret.
9. Make Better Decisions
“It’s in the moment of decision that your destiny is shaped” - Anthony Robbins.
You are where you are as a result of the decisions you’ve made throughout your life.
Mistakes are a prerequisite to learning.
We’ve all made decisions that seem dumb when we look back at them.
The value of a decision is only evident in hindsight.
To make better decisions, align them with your life's purpose, values and goals.
10. Set Higher Standards
The standards you have for yourself determine how you treat yourself, how you allow other people to treat you.
If you've reached a point where it’s time to turn your life around it’s likely you’ve let your standards fall in one or more areas.
Raise your standards for what you accept from yourself. Start thinking and acting on a higher level.
Hold a picture in your mind of the ideal you.
Go into detail, how you think, how you behave, and what activities you participate in.
Be that person now.
11. Master Something
Life is about personal growth.
When we stop growing we begin to feel empty and unsatisfied.
Your mind needs to be engaged in a meaningful pursuit.
One way to create structure and consistency of narrative in your own life is to work towards mastery in an area that interests you.
This can be mastery in any field.
Martial arts, sport, chess, e-commerce, trading the stock market, painting, writing, or anything else.
Committing to mastery is different from dabbling.
You’re committing for the long term and you're willing to put in the required work/practice regularly.
Even when you don’t feel like it, your commitment makes you do it.
12. Make Progress Your Purpose
Similar to mastery is personal progress.
When your life starts falling to pieces look to making progress in the key areas of your life.
If you feel you’re becoming distant from your children, start spending more quality time with them.
If your health isn’t what you want it to be, take steps so you’ll feel proud and confident again.
When you start making progress you gain more control over the direction of your life.
13. Treat Yourself Well
If your intention is to put your life back together, beating yourself down and negative self-talk won’t help.
Self-esteem and confidence are the cornerstones of success and abundance.
If you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities, why should anyone else?
Remind yourself that you are a champion.
Build new self-positive neural pathways and keep reinforcing them until they become a firm belief that you don't question them anymore.
14. Find Good Mentors
You don’t have time to reinvent the wheel.
It’s ignorant to think you have all the answers and you’ll work it all out yourself.
Many people that have come before you have attained mastery in the very areas you need to improve on.
Find mentors that have already done the hard work.
They’ve already figured out key principles that you can learn and build upon.
Some people say “I don’t know any mentors”.
A mentor doesn’t have to be someone you sit down with once a week for a coffee and a coaching session.
A mentor can be an author, a teacher, a person of excellence that you respect.
Gain access to the best mentors through books, youtube, audios, and seminars.
15. Don't Overthink
Beware of over importance.
A sure way to feel anxiety and helplessness is to give too much importance to things that don’t really matter.
If a meteor was going to hit earth in a few hours, would you really be concerned about most of the things you worry yourself with?
Fear is a trick of the mind.
When you lower the importance of things and let them play out, you feel more relaxed and your mind is free to focus on more productive things.
The less you worry about things the better they tend to work out.
16. Keep Your Emotions in Check
Being a victim of your short term emotions causes you to make decisions that you later regret.
Prisons are full of people who let their emotions override their rational mind
In a moment lives were destroyed.
Taking a moment to pause before responding or making a decision you could literally save your life.
Putting your life back together requires making intelligent decisions.
Use your emotions, don’t let them use you.
17. Think Less, Do More
Getting your life together doesn’t come about by thinking, talking, dreaming or complaining.
It comes from action.
The solution to the majority of our problems is action of some type.
Don’t fool yourself that thinking and talking is making progress.
Progress is attained by taking consistent action in the direction towards your goals.
You know what needs to change in your life to get it where you want it to be.
Start taking action today, even the smallest of steps can make the biggest difference.
Quotes About Getting Your Life Together
“Your past is just a story. And once you realise this, it has no power over you.”— Chuck Palahniuk
“One small crack doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means you were put to the test, and you didn’t fall apart.”— Linda Poindexter
“It’s important to not be afraid of failure and to push yourself to try things and jump in the cold water. There are incredible, beautiful opportunities out there.”— Juergen Teller
“Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”—Muhammad Ali
“Though nobody can go back and make a new beginning… Anyone can start over and make a new ending.”—Chico Xavier
“Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes around in another form.”—Rumi