How to Get What You Want in Life
Alek V // Reliable Strategies
Getting What You Want
In life, you will always run into challenges that may seem impossible to overcome.
What’s important is not how many obstacles you face but your approach to overcoming them and staying on track with your goals.
Through self-awareness and an optimistic attitude, anyone can learn the skills needed for achieving success in any aspect of their lives.
But they have to be willing to work for it. Nothing of lasting value comes free.
Here's 10 rules to start getting more of what you want out of life…
1. Success is Action, Not Motivation
The key to success is not the level of motivation you have, but your ability to focus on completing a task despite the lack of motivation.
A lot of people keep waiting for the perfect time to feel motivated.
It's like they think one day they'll wake up and suddenly have all the motivation in the world to start 'hustling' and 'getting stuff done'.
But, that's not how it works. Motivation comes from action.
You need to take consistent action towards your goal every single day until it becomes an everyday thing in your routine.
Thats how to get what you want in life.
2. Seek Knowledge First
The world is full of people who believe that they can simply follow a set of instructions and achieve guaranteed results.
But the truth is that success comes from learning new things every day.
The common perception is that success leads to happiness.
But there’s a problem with this way of thinking.
It stems from the belief that you need more things to be happy.
As a result, people put their focus on acquiring wealth and physical possessions instead of cultivating knowledge and wisdom.
They can remain trapped in an endless cycle of failure, disappointment, and frustration.
They don’t understand why they aren’t experiencing the level of success or fulfilment they want.
3. Enjoy the Ride
If you want to be successful and change your life, the journey has to be mostly enjoyable.
It needs to feel like a game, so you want to keep playing.
How many times have you said to yourself "I really want to do X, but I don't know how/don't feel like doing it".
In the beginning, it is more of a journey.
You have not yet tasted success and there's a lot to learn.
Having fun while you're working is the key to achieving success.
Life can be hard and it will drag you down.
But when you choose an optimistic outlook, focused on finding enjoyment in everything you do, life gets easier.
4. Tame Your Negative Thoughts
Your mind is a powerful force.
It can be used to achieve greatness in all aspects of life, or it can be a destructive force that holds you back.
One of the most common barriers to your success is negative thoughts.
Negative thoughts prevent you from taking action, and hold back your progress.
The good news is that these patterns have been broken by many successful people before us.
Everyone is stuck with negative thoughts from some point in their life.
It could be something that happened to you yesterday, or a past trauma you're so far unable to get over emotionally.
These can be very debilitating and damage your emotional well-being.
But what if we could rid ourselves of them?
5. The Miracle of Imagination
The power of your mind has enormous possibilities. But on the flip side, it can be dangerous if you don't take care of it properly.
Using your imagination is a great way to improve your creative thinking and problem-solving abilities.
There are many benefits of using your imagination, but the most important is that it allows you to think outside the box.
By doing so, you will come up with unique solutions for problems, ideally to make more money or to become better at whatever you do.
Your imagination has the answers to your problems and is an indispensable tool for your future success.
6. Be Humble in Your Success
"I deserve this. I'm the best at what I do."
If you've ever said these things to yourself, then you're doing something wrong.
Resting on your laurels is not how to get what you want.
Most people spend far too much time telling themselves that they're awesome when in reality they're far from it.
You should never need to talk yourself up like that – even if you really are good at something or have achieved a lot in life.
I like nice people. I am a nice person.
But, we have to be careful not to let our niceness bite us in the butt.
Successful people will tell you that they haven’t always been that way.
They had times when it was so hard it seemed impossible, and they wanted to quit.
But they kept at it and persevered, until success came their way.
7. Remove All Distractions
In the past, you were probably able to get away with procrastinating, sometimes for hours at a time.
There are plenty of distractions out there.
Some of them may be easy to spot; others might take some effort to identify and cut down on.
One of the best ways to improve your productivity is to reduce the causes of distraction.
It’s been said that success in any field is a result of being able to focus on one thing, to the exclusion of everything else, until that one thing is complete.
8. It's All on You
Successful people rely on themselves to get ahead, not on others.
If you want to be successful, you should learn this valuable lesson: Don’t rely on other people to make your dreams a reality; put in the work and take control of your own destiny.
The most important thing to remember is this: You are the only person who can make your life better.
Don't wait for someone else to do it for you, don't expect others to give you their time, energy, or resources.
And definitely don't rely on other people being happy with you when you win big.
Instead of looking outside yourself and waiting around for "someone" else to show up and fix things, start putting your own self-interest first.
The only person who will ever change anything about how your life works is actually…you!
9. Always Plan Ahead
A good plan shows where you want to go and how you are going to get there.
Every person, business, or organization needs a plan. Without it, progress will be slow if at all possible.
Writing down your action steps for accomplishing that goal must be on top of your list of priorities.
Life is 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we react to it.
What do I mean by this? Well, no one can predict the future with certainty.
But, having a clear aim and purpose with a good plan helps you achieve what's important.
10. Stay Calm to Avoid Stress
Mental stress is a condition that occurs when you have been doing something for so long that it begins to feel like your life.
Your passion and pleasure are gone, but you’re still going through the motions of what you used to love.
You look at yourself in the mirror and don’t recognize who is staring back at you.
It can be difficult to identify a breakdown before it happens, as there are no clear-cut symptoms or timelines associated with it.
People often experience feelings of exhaustion and apathy after years of pursuing a specific goal or project.
By all means, chase your goals and dreams.
But put your own well-being and inner peace at the top of your priorities list.
Think and Live Well,
Best Quotes About Getting What You Want
"If you're not actively involved in getting what you want, you don't really want it" - Peter McWilliams
"Sometimes, not getting what you want can be the most valuable experience of your entire life" - Tony Robbins
"You can search the world over, but you won’t find happiness until you realize that happiness isn’t getting what you want. It’s being content with what you already have" - Yasmin Mogahed
"For changes to be of any true value, they've got to be lasting and consistent. Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards... If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in life, you'll find it's easy to slip into behaviors and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve... Whatever happens, take responsibility... The only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself about why you don't have it" - Tony Robbins"Happiness doesn't come from getting what you want. It doesn't come from within, either. Happiness comes from *between*--from finding the right relationship between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger than yourself" - Jonathan Haidt