10 Ways How to Stop Self-Destructive Behaviour
Is Your Behaviour Self-Destructive?
Self-destructive behaviour is acting in a way that causes you physical or emotional harm.
If you have self-destructive behaviours you're not alone. Everyone has them in one form or another.
This post will help you identify your self-destructive behaviour and show you how to replace them with better ones.
Once you do, your life will never be the same again.
Let’s get into it...
9 Self-Destructive Behaviours to Avoid
Here are nine self-destructive behaviours that will keep you from finding abundance and success.
1. A Self-Defeating Mindset
One of the most self-destructive behaviour is a defeatist mindset.
A defeatist mindset means you expect yourself to fail more than you expect to succeed.
You talk yourself out of success (in your head) before you’ve even begun.
You know you're going to fail so why bother?
We all go through times in our lives when we aren't our best selves.
But if it’s affecting your ability to make progress in life it's time to change once and for all.
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2. Laziness and Procrastination
Laziness and procrastination stem from a defeatist mindset.
If you’ve already decided it’s not going to work out, why bother right?
The absence of a worthwhile goal causes laziness and procrastination.
You don't have anything to excite and motivate you.
Your brain needs a target to aim for.
If it doesn’t have that it doesn’t know what to do, so it goes into sleep mode, awaiting further instruction.
If your brain has nothing to focus on you'll revert to laziness and procrastination.
Unfortunately, that's how we're wired.
3. Eating Junk Food
People all over the world are eating themselves to death.
Junk food is more available than clean food.
A large coke and McDonalds is cheaper than a bottle of water.
When you’re in a lazy state of mind you don’t want to make the extra effort to find something healthy to eat.
You don't have to be on a raw organic diet to be healthy.
Just be conscious of clean eating and cut down your consumption of junk.
When you live a healthy and productive life your desire to eat crappy food disappears.
4. Poor Self-Image
How you see the world is a reflection of how you see yourself, and in turn how the world sees you.
When you see yourself as not good enough, or in a negative light, you’re self-sabotaging at the deepest level.
Most communication is non-verbal.
We're always giving micro signals to the world around us.
They're imperceptible to the conscious mind, but they convey who you are and what you stand for.
When you have a poor self-image opportunities will appear but you won’t take advantage of them.
You might have great ideas, but you won’t follow them up.
Instead, you'll sell yourself because you think you're not enough.
Your poor self-image gets reinforced and the negative spiral continues.
The good news is with desire and commitment you can change your self-image and become who you want to be.
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Jealousy is an emotional response to not having what someone else has.
It comes in many forms, each one as destructive as the next.
When you display signs of jealousy you defeat yourself in many ways;
a) You immediately degrade yourself by placing someone or something above yourself
b) You fall into a lack mindset when you start moaning about what you don’t have, or what you're missing out on
c) You discount the wisdom of the universe.
Could it be possible that not getting what you want, in this instance, was a wonderful stroke of luck?
Don't let jealousy to defeat you, use it as a motivational trigger.
Whenever you feel like you’re missing out on something, reframe your viewpoint.
There's a silver lining in everything if you look for it hard enough.
You have nothing to be jealous about. Don't lose sight of the bigger picture.
The world is abundant, and whatever anyone has you can have.
Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and singing “poor me” accomplishes nothing.
Everyone takes hits, we all get disappointed when we come up short.
But to pitying yourself the loser's way.
Self-pity erodes your sense of self-confidence and optimism for the future.
You’re better than that, so don't go there.
If you’ve been around a person who revels in self-pity you’ll know how draining it can be.
How can you be happy and successful if you feel sorry for yourself?
Instead of letting self-pity destroy you, get excited.
Take it as a sign that you need to improve yourself, raise your standards, and step up your game.
Become so productive, and make your life so abundant, that self-pity never enters your mind.
7. Excessive Drugs and Alcohol
Drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes destroy your mind and body.
They might give you temporary pleasure, but don't kid yourself about their consequences.
Moderation is important, of course. But with most vices, it’s all or nothing.
It’s unlikely that you can smoke on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, then not smoke every other day.
If drugs and alcohol have become self-destructive it's time to make a few changes.
Your success, and your life, depend on it.
8. Self Isolation
Human beings are social creatures.
There’s a reason why solitary confinement is a form of punishment inside a prison.
Everyone should take their own time for introspection and self-reflection.
But isolating yourself for long periods is self-destructive behavior.
When you spend too much time alone your social skills suffer.
Then your self-esteem takes a hit.
From there your mind becomes more prone to negativity.
9. Poor Financial Management
Financial stress is a common cause of stress, depression, divorce, and suicide.
Money is a tool that gives us freedom and choice and allows us to maintain a certain standard of living.
If you’re swamped in credit card debt, or you don’t have any savings, you're stuck.
Anyone who’s ever been broke knows the gut-wrenching feeling that comes with not having money.
You don’t have to be a billionaire or even a millionaire.
But you do need to be in control of your money and be net positive on your balance sheet.
10 Ways to Stop Your Self-Destructive Behaviour
1. Identify the Destructive Behaviour
What’s causing your self-destructive behaviour?
Is it because you don’t like yourself? Or have you gotten lazy and let your standards fall?
At one point, that behavior might have helped you.
But now it’s become an impediment to your success and you need to replace it.
Think about where you first learned that behavior.
What have you gained from it in the past?
And what pain has it caused you in your life?
2. Choose a New Behaviour to Replace the Old One
Your self-destructive behaviour, in a weird way, has a positive intention.
If it didn't you wouldn't do it.
You can fulfill your original intention with more effective and sustainable behaviors.
To stop the old self-destructive behaviour you need to replace it with a better one.
Otherwise, before you know it you’ll be back to your old ways.
So what's your new, replacement behaviour going to be?
3. Condition Your New Desired Behaviour
When you have your new behaviour you need to condition it into your nervous system.
The only way to do that is to live it out in the real world.
Through repetition, it will become your default behavior.
Once it becomes automatic you won't believe you used to do anything else.
But in the beginning, you need to make a conscious effort to remove the old and install the new.
You might slip up a few times. That's ok.
Catch yourself when you realize you're doing it and choose a better option.
4. Keep a Journal
If you have children you don’t notice their growth day by day.
But when your friend comes to visit and hasn’t seen them for a while they marvel at how much the kids have grown.
The same principle applies to you.
Keeping a journal lets you get a timeline of your own development.
When you articulate your thoughts and feelings on paper you get to know yourself on a deeper level.
Journalling gives you a better understanding of how your mind works.
When you read back over your journal, you'll see yourself from a new perspective.
Things you were blind to before now become obvious.
5. Improve Your Self-Image
Your self-image determines how you experience reality.
If you see yourself as a winner, you take advantage of opportunities when you see them.
You meet people and learn new ways to get where you want to go.
If you see yourself as a loser the opposite happens.
You let opportunities pass you by because you don't feel like you deserve success.
Self-image is everything. Until you improve it success will elude you.
You have to change first before anything else will.
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6. Commit 100%
You can’t half-ass your way to success. It’s all or nothing.
That’s why so few people manage to change their lives for the better.
They want to change.
They say they want to change.
But they don't commit 100%.
They let fear, or laziness, keep them from being a better version of themselves.
When you decide and commit you to cut off any other possibilities.
If you don't commit 100% you get nothing.
But once you commit fully, the world is yours.
7. Self Reflection
Self-reflection is observing and analysing your thoughts and behaviours.
To change and improve yourself, you first need to know yourself.
When you know yourself you can change your behaviours with precision.
You'll know exactly what the problem is, and where to find the solutions.
Take some time out, turn off your phone, and eliminate distractions.
Think about who you want to be, who you don't want to be, and the type of life you want to live.
Nothing is more important than knowing yourself.
8. Clean up Your Life
Whatever you don’t need, get rid of it.
Self destructive behaviours have triggers.
It’s futile to try and change the behaviour without removing the precursor to the behaviour.
Start at home. When was the last time you cleaned out all the junk you’ve accumulated over the past few years?
If you haven't used, looked at, or thought about an item for 12 months you don’t need it. Get rid of it.
9. Set Clear Goals
If you have meaningful goals that you really want, you’ll do whatever it takes to have them.
Start small with simple goals that are easy to achieve.
If you haven’t been to the gym in a while you don’t go in and start lifting the heaviest weight you can find.
You ease yourself into it, and each incremental improvement adds to the last.
Behind your goals, you need to have a workable system for manifesting them.
A pretty vision board or cute affirmations aren't a valid system.
Your system should consist of effective, intelligent action.
Don’t overwhelm yourself with 100 new goals.
Choose two or three, or even better just one, and get started.
10. Think Less, Do More
Don’t overthink all this. Changing your self-destructive behaviours isn’t easy, but it doesn’t have to be difficult either.
Don't over-analyze yourself, or give your problems more importance than they deserve.
Results in your life won't come by thinking about them.
They come from taking consistent action.
So how long will you let your self-destructive behaviors to hold you back?
Self-improvement is an ongoing process, not a one-time event.
Align your habits and behaviours with your goals, and you’ll be unstoppable!
Quotes About Self-Destructive Behaviour
“Hate is self-destructive. If you hate somebody, you're not hurting the person you hate. You're hurting yourself. And that's healing. Actually, it's real healing, forgiveness” - Louis Zamperini
“Don't waste so much time thinking about how much you weigh. There is no more mind-numbing, boring, idiotic, self-destructive diversion from the fun of living” - Meryl Streep
“I am a self-destructive idiot” - Swara Bhaskar
“I think we all carry the seeds of our own destruction. You really have to be aware that just because something is good, it doesn't mean it's not going to trigger a self-destructive impulse” - Adam Ferrara
“This is what I am. I have periods of enormous self-destructive depression, where I go completely off my trolley and lose all sight of reality and reason” - Siobhan Fahey