What Is a Good Girlfriend?
The definition of a good girlfriend varies from guy to guy.
But despite different preferences, all guys agree there are certain traits they want to see in their girlfriend.
We’ve compiled a list of the most important qualities a girlfriend must have if she intends to keep her man and have a meaningful relationship with him.
As you read on, ask yourself what you need to do more of and what you should do less of?
Apply these ideas to your own relationship and you'll see positive changes overnight.
What a Girlfriend Shouldn't Do
As a girlfriend, you should never denigrate your boyfriend or target his dignity as a man.
If you try to make him feel worthless by pointing out his flaws he probably won't stick around too long, and he'll find a more encouraging woman to be with.
Support him on his journey to being a better man. He wants you to be a positive force in his life.
So let’s dive in, here’s a list of must do’s if you want to be the best girlfriend for your man.
18 Ways to Be the Best Girlfriend
Being the best girlfriend doesn't have to be complicated or difficult.
Keep these things in mind and you shouldn't have any serious problems with your guy.
1. Don't Be Too Jealous
You adore him and you want him to be yours, but don’t take the jealousy thing too far.
Mean mugging any women who look in his direction or accusing them of trying to ‘steal your man’ might be a bit too much.
2. Don't Nag Him
No one likes a nagger. There’s a cliche’ version of the nagging woman, a character you don’t want to be.
Men, like children, respond a lot better to requests framed in the positive.
The more you nag the less likely he is to want to do it.
Remember you’re his girlfriend, not his nagging mother.
3. Be a Self Confident Woman
Confident women are attractive. Being a good girlfriend isn’t all about him.
It’s mostly about you being the best woman you can be, secure, living with a purpose, and confident about who she is.
Confident women are less prone to unnecessary drama and pettiness. Confidence radiates.
Your man will respect you more and want to be around you because you lift him up when he’s with you.
4. Show Appreciation
Everyone likes feeling like they’re appreciated. Your boyfriend is no different.
Let him know that you appreciate and value him and you’re grateful to have him in your life.
It might not be obvious but he’ll value that a lot, and in turn, he’ll show his appreciation more to you.
5. Don't Flirt With Other Guys
Two things about this one. Firstly, when a guy likes you he feels protective of you.
He knows what guys are thinking about when they talk to you, even if they’re pretending to “just be friends”.
It’s disrespectful to your boyfriend and to your relationship if you’re flirting with other guys.
Secondly, ask yourself why you need to do it? Are you desperate for validation? Is you’re boyfriend making you feel undesired? Maybe you like it and that’s the type of woman you want to be.
Nothing wrong with that, you’re free to be whoever you want to be and do what you want to do.
What is wrong is doing it while you’re in a relationship. It’s one or the other but you can’t have both, it never ends well.
6. Keep Him Engaged
When things get predictable or non-eventful people start losing interest. Keep your boyfriend engaged.
It can be through the conversations you have together, your magnetic personality, or the sexual energy you radiate as a woman.
Don’t make yourself too available for him either. Without realising it guys don’t want you to be on call and available at all times.
Scarcity breeds necessity and absence makes the heart grow fonder.
7. Don't Try to Fix Him
Most women believe more in their men than their men do in themselves.
They see how he could become a better man and they want to see him become that.
But don’t try to “fix” him. Help and inspire him to be his best self by showing him you believe in him and his potential.
He wants to be a better man.
But if he feels you’re trying to fix him because there’s something wrong with him you’ll kill his internal motivation and self-confidence.
8. Lift Him Up When He's Down
When a man is at a low point sometimes all it takes is the touch or words of a woman to lighten his load.
You have that power as a woman.
A man you don’t even know who’s having a bad day could pass you in the street and feel your feminine energy and instantly feel better, even if only for a few moments.
Be there for him as a source of strength and positive energy when he’s down, He won’t forget it.
9. Give Him Some Space
Men need their own space.
That’s why when girls get too clingy they start to lose interest.
Encourage him to take time out for himself to focus on his goals and purpose.
As a woman, you should compliment his life, not be the sole priority of it.
The same goes for you. No man should be your sole purpose for living.
You should both have your own lives, goals, and activities as well as time and interests you share together.
10. Encourage Him
It’s in a man’s DNA to pursue a goal.
From hunting food on the savannah to building their own company to pursuing you to be his woman.
When a man has worthy goals and actively pursuing them he’s living with purpose and he feel's like a million dollars.
When he doesn’t have goals and direction he feels empty and unfulfilled and can easily fall into depression.
Encourage him to follow his goals and be the best he can be.
11. Be Cool Around His Friends
Be cool when you’re around his friends. Guys notice and they want you to feel comfortable.
It means a lot if he knows you’re cool when you guys are out and about.
If you always need to be the centre of attention, or you make drama in front of his friends he won’t want to take you anywhere.
The view his peers have of you is important as well.
If they agree you’re awesome he feels like a king, if they say you’re nothing but trouble he feels like a fool.
12. Turn Him On
Sex is important for both of you. As a woman, you can turn your guy on beyond his wildest dreams.
Men carry a lot of problems around in their heads. They don’t often talk about and release their problems as women do.
Let him experience the total release of his stress and absolute immersion in sexual ecstasy by turning him on and getting him off.
He’ll be more than happy to return the favour.
13. Have Your Own Interests
A woman with her own interests and life goals is very attractive to a man.
When he sees you’re into your own things and you don’t need him to feel validated or entertained he’ll want you even more.
When he asks you what you want to do, don't reply “whatever you want to do”.
Have your own interests and pursue your own life path.
14. If Somethings Wrong, Tell Him
Give your own opinions and tell him what you think and feel. Guys like that.
They don’t want to have to decipher and translate your non-verbal communication.
They like to know where they stand. Don’t make it difficult for him.
If you have something on your mind or you feel there’s a problem between the two of you, tell him.
He’ll respect you more for that than keeping it from him and letting it fester inside.
15. Don't Pick on His Flaws
A man already knows what his flaws are.
He doesn’t need his woman putting them in his face making him feel more insignificant than he already does.
Even if that’s not your intention that’s the message he’ll receive.
As we touched on before, encourage him to be better and to overcome his weaknesses but not from the frame of him being a failure and needing to be fixed.
16. Show Affection
Men respond to physical affection. When you’re out in public let him know you’re his girl with a soft touch or kiss.
Those small gestures can make him feel like superman.
From his perspective it sends a statement that you’re showing the world you’re proud to be with him and you find him attractive.
For any man that’s a huge confidence boost.
As babies men received tenderness from the female they loved, their mother.
As strange as it sounds, that desire for tenderness is still there.
He doesn’t for a moment expect you to be his mother (be wary if he does), but he appreciates affectionate gestures from you.
17. Don't Be Needy
A needy and clingy woman is one who won’t be able to hold onto a guy for long.
Guys like their space and are attracted to women who have not only self-confidence but their own life and interests other than him.
If you constantly need validation from him via compliments, or you feel the need to start little drama’s in a desperate bid for attention you won’t hold onto him very long.
The best way to get anything is to not need it.
18. Be Your Best Self
This is the most important piece of advice on the list, and it’s nothing about him. It’s all about you.
When you put your best self into the world people inevitably find you attractive.
But even that’s not as important as how you feel about yourself.
No man is worth giving away your dignity as a woman.
To be a high-value woman means knowing your values and your worth in the world and living those values every single day.
A woman with dignity and self respect who's living her own life is a great catch for any guy.
Being the best girlfriend is the result of being your best self first.
Quotes About Being the Best Girlfriend
Personally, I don't like a girlfriend to have a husband. If she'll fool her husband, I figure she'll fool me" - Orson Welles
"Well, a girlfriend once told me never to fight with anybody you don't love" - Jack Nicholson
"When you're a teenager, you want to meet a lot of girls - you want to get the most girls. You don't know anything about respect; you don't know anything about being faithful and loyal to your girlfriend" - Nas
"The thing about impressing your girlfriend is that when you do something like a private island in Fiji, it's all downhill from that point" - Kevin Hart