Living the Single Life
Today I’m single. And you know what? I'm the happiest I’ve ever been.
I’ve had some amazing relationships in my life with some very special people. And I'm sure I will again.
But right now, it’s all about me.
I enjoy my time alone.
I have freedom to pursue my own interests, spend time with whomever I want, and I don’t have to answer to anybody.
If you're with the right person, a relationship can be a beautiful thing.
When the opportunity comes again I’ll take it.
But until then, I’m going to appreciate the gift of being single. This is my time, for me.
What About Being Alone?
If you’re alone at the moment cherish the time you have for yourself and make the most of it.
Having time alone is key to your personal growth. You have time to think and reflect.
You can pursue, uninterrupted, what you want to do.
You don’t have to compromise or negotiate or placate. Your time is yours to invest it how you want.
There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. Neither has anything to do with a relationship.
Both are determined by how you perceive yourself in your own mind.
You can have people all around you and feel alone, even lonely.
You can be alone and be in total bliss. It’s a state of mind.
How you decide to perceive your situation at this particular moment in time.
You can see your being single as nobody wanting you and a confirmation of your worthlessness.
Or you can see it as an opportunity to focus on yourself and make your life better than ever before.
Choose to see being alone, and being single, as a positive experience and a privilege many don't have.
Being alone is itself neutral.
It’s neither good nor bad, it will be what you decide it to be.
Enjoying the Single Life
Do you perceive being single as a positive or a negative for you?
Your future experience stems from the meaning you give to being single.
Is being single bad or is being single amazingly good? That’s for you to decide.
How to Be Happy and Single
1. Take Control of Your Life
Accept full responsibility for everything in your life.
Don’t blame anything or anyone for why your last relationship ended or why you don’t have one now.
Own it and take control.
You now have an opportunity to take yourself and your life to another level.
2. Put Yourself First
Time is wealth. Independence and freedom is wealth.
Ask anyone caught in an unhappy marriage and they’ll tell you.
Double down on your interests and hobbies.
Start that business you’ve always wanted to start.
Get your body into the best shape of your life. Travel the world.
Learn, experience, and try new things. Be your best self.
3. To Date or Not to Date?
There are thousands of potential partners out there right at this very moment.
Go out and meet new people.
Have no expectations other than to enjoy yourself and have a good time.
Come from the frame of enjoyment, not desperation.
You might meet someone compatible, you might not.
Go on dates and enjoy the freedom that comes with being single.
Being Single and Happy
If you’re single, be a happy single.
Live your life as your best self and let any future relationships take their own course.
Don’t place too much importance on the relationship itself.
Focus on being the best you can be. Be a high value human being.
A healthy relationship is two people with similar values.
They care about each other and feel passionate and engaged when they're together.
A relationship shouldn’t be your priority.
Being your best self should be your first priority.
There will be times when you may feel vulnerable and start to lament that you’re alone.
Don’t fall for these moments of desperation.
It’s a trick your mind is playing on you in the moment.
When you get that feeling go and do something productive to change your state and refocus your mind.
Look around you and you’ll see people who will never have the freedom and independence that you have now.
6 Ways to Be Happily Single
1. Do Something Meaningful
Invest your time and energy into doing things you care about.
When you do this, you live with a sense of purpose and fulfilment.
Have your own interests and cool things going on in your life.
You'll feel better about yourself and create experiences that could be life changing.
2. Don't Compare Yourself
What’s good for other people might not be the best for you right now.
Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
What look’s like happiness on the surface could be covering misery and chaos.
You never know. Focus on you.
Set your own standards and determine for yourself who you are and how you want to live.
Your path is your path. Their path is theirs. Leave it at that and don't compare.
3. Respect Your Time
Work on becoming the best you can be.
You won’t be single forever unless you decide to be.
Use the time you have now to do what makes you happy.
Do the things you’ve always wanted to do. Learn to be alone. Enjoy your own company.
4. Stop Trying to Be Perfect
It’s easy to remember all the positives about being in a relationship and to over look the negative.
Remember there was a reason why your previous relationships ended.
Keep things in perspective, like anything in life there are two sides to every coin.
Relationships are no different.
5. Put No one on a Pedestal
When you do meet someone you like don’t throw yourself at them or put them on a pedestal.
When we meet someone new we tend to see them as the person we want them to be rather than as the person they are.
Be cool. Give things time to unfold. They’re not the prize, you are.
Let them prove their worth and suitability before you go jumping into anything.
6. Learn and Let Go
Don’t carry your baggage with you from previous relationships.
This is easier said than done.
As part of your life experience some of it will always stay with you.
But don’t let it taint your current state of being or your future relationships.
Not only for yourself, but when you meet someone new let him or her start on a blank canvas.
Don’t let a past experience stain what could otherwise be a beautiful experience for both of you.
If You're Single Be Happy About it
Don’t make your happiness dependent on anyone else but you.
Be happy being single and invest your time in being someone you like.
When you achieve that you’ll have so many options in front of you won’t believe it.
The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.
Being single is a gift. Own it and embrace it.
Best Quotes About Being Single
”I love being single. I can come and go as I please and stay out as late as I want to.” – Eric Dickerson
”Being single is definitely better than being with the wrong person” – Hassan Choughari
”Being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re available. Sometimes you have to put up a sign that says, “Do Not Disturb” on your heart.” – Wiz Khalifa
”People would be a lot better off if they’d enjoy being single.” – Lewis Black