50 Great Ways How to Be a Better Boyfriend

50 Great Ways How to Be a Better Boyfriend

Chris Ross, M.Psych.

How To Be A Better Boyfriend

Key Points

  • Healthy and lasting relationships require mutual respect
  • In times of weakness, your woman needs a pillar of strength, that’s your job
  • Make an effort to understand her perspective before you respond
  • To be successful with women it’s invaluable to understand female psychology.

What is a Good Boyfriend?

If you’re a guy who wants to be a better boyfriend, or a girl wanting to know if your guy stacks up, keep reading.

It’s unrealistic to expect any boyfriend (or girlfriend) to be perfect, but you need standards for what you expect from your partner, that aligns with your values and beliefs.

Here are 50 things you can do today to be a better boyfriend…

“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.”Oscar Wilde

How To Be A Better Boyfriend

50 Ways to Be a Better Boyfriend


1. Respect Her

Show respect to your woman. That means appreciating her and treating her like she’s someone special.  It doesn’t mean showering her with gifts and putting her on a pedestal.

That might be fun for a while, but no woman will respect you long term if have to buy her attention. Treat her like you’d expect a guy to treat your sister if they were dating.

2. Show Interest

Acknowledge your girlfriend by showing interest in what she’s interested in. Don’t become one of those boring boyfriends you see out with their women looking totally uninterested.

Ask her about her day, her opinions, and value what she has to say even if you don’t always agree with it.

3. Be Your Self

Don’t pretend to be anything other than yourself. Women are quite intuitive and can sniff out when you’re being fake.

Be yourself around your woman. Be your best self for your woman, and if any woman that doesn’t like you for who you are isn’t the right woman for you.

4. Contribute

Contributing to your relationship means taking an active role in making it work. Success with your woman takes a contribution from both of you.

Do your part. Give more value to your lady than you expect to receive, forget about words, and show it through your consistent action.

5. Show Your Romantic Side

Women like to be romanticized by their men. It makes them feel special and it lets them know you care.

Let’s be honest, most guys couldn’t care less about a romantic night out. Do it for your woman because you appreciate her and she deserves something special.

6. Be Affectionate

Women think more emotionally than men. Most guys’ idea of intimacy is 20 minutes of sex followed by a nap.

Affection and intimacy are so much more than that, especially for your beautiful girlfriend. The smallest of things can have the biggest effect on her.

Holding her hand, putting your arms around her, or giving her soft kisses on her neck can make her feel special and desired.

7. Show Your Masculinity

Women want a man, they don’t want a little boy or an immature kid. Show your masculinity to your woman and let her know you’re a confident man with a purpose and a mission.

A man with positive masculinity values the woman they’re with and isn’t afraid to show it.

8. Listen to Her

Sometimes women just want you to listen to them. They don’t want solutions, they want to speak and be heard.  Men are biologically programmed to solve problems.

They think that’s what their woman wants when she’s talking about her issues. Next time she starts, don’t speak. Sit and listen, and let her talk.

9. Let Her Share Her Interests With You

Your girlfriend could be interested in makeup, the game of thrones, or quantum physics, and you might have zero interest in any of these things.

But your relationship isn’t all about you, it’s about both of you. You don’t have to become as obsessed about it as she is, but don’t mock her or laugh it off.

Let her share her interests with you.

10. Compliment Her Body

Women can be self-conscious about their bodies. Even the most beautiful women get self-conscious about their looks.

Let your girlfriend know you desire her. Don’t use the same “you’re so beautiful” all the time, let her know specifically why she’s beautiful.

“Your eyes are mesmerizing”, “You have great legs”, and “I love the smell of your hair after a shower”. You get the idea.

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11. Don’t Show Jealousy

It’s a turnoff for girls if their boyfriend is overly jealous because it shows insecurity. As a man, you don’t want other guys drooling on your woman and trying to pick her up.

Make it clear from the start what’s acceptable and what isn’t in terms of her communicating with the opposite sex, then trust she’ll handle it. If you can’t trust her she’s not your girl.

Be cool. If you can’t trust her to ignore or deflect the wrong type of attention from other men, you shouldn’t be with her.

12. Communicate Your Feelings

Guys tend to keep their emotions inside and don’t speak about them, but a good boyfriend doesn’t hide his feelings from his girlfriend. Relationships are about a mutual respect.

The success of your relationship depends on the level of communication between you. If something’s on your mind, say it, and always be truthful when you communicate with your girlfriend.

13. Don’t Try to Control Her

You don’t own your girl, and the more obsessive and needy you are, the more you’ll turn her off.

Anyway, you don’t want to be stuck together like glue 24 hours a day, give her some space to do her own thing, and for you to do yours.

Then when you’re together it’s much more special.

14. Don’t Be Dramatic

When your woman’s having an emotional meltdown, or you feel a drama’s brewing stay cool and don’t buy into it. What she really wants to see is that you have the internal strength as a man to stand strong.

In times of stress, your woman needs a pillar of strength to support her. It’s your role to be that for her.

15. Be Cool With Her Family and Friends

A woman’s friends and family are important to her. Do you know how attractive you are to your girlfriend when she sees you getting along with them? It’s called social proof, and you can use it to your advantage.

Even if you don’t like them, make an effort to be civil, and show her you care enough about her to rise above petty grievances.

16. Have Your Own Goals

You have to have goals and interests in life. They make you a better boyfriend because they make you a better man.

Women like a man with a purpose, so don’t neglect your own goals and ambitions. You need a primary aim, everything else is built around that. and your woman will respect and love you for it.

17. Show You Appreciate Her

Talk’s cheap. Anyone can say sweet words, but you can show your woman how you feel through your actions.

Don’t be a hopeless romantic,  you don’t need to lavish her with gifts. But instead, be a man of action! You’ve heard the words “action speaks louder than words”.

A few small gestures can tell your girlfriend you appreciate and value her more than a million words ever could.

18. Give Her Great Sex

You can’t talk about relationship dynamics without talking about sex. Are you a “wham, bam thank you ma’am” guy? Warm her up, make her hot, and give her an experience that she’ll love.

Give your girlfriend mind-blowing sexual pleasure, and she’ll give you the same in return.

Take some time to please her.

19. Be a Positive Influence

There’s power inf being a source of positive energy for the people around you. Not fake manufactured positivity, but an attitude towards life that reflects abundance and a growth mindset.

People will be drawn to you, your woman will feel more attracted, and your self-confidence soars.

20. Be a Great Catch

The best way to be a good boyfriend is to be a good man, an independent thinker, living forthrightly in the world.  Be the best man you can be and project your positive masculinity onto everyone you have contact with.

When you’re committed to being your best, ​and actively pursuing your ambitions, you’re attractive to any woman.

21. Introduce Her to Friends

Introducing your girlfriend to your friends can be a nerve-wracking experience. You want them to like her, but you also don’t want her to embarrass you.

Keep it casual. Steer the conversation away from embarrassing topics, like her exes or awkward moments, and put her in a good light.

22. Cook Delicious Meals

Cooking for the woman you love is a rewarding experience for both of you. It shows you care about what she likes, and you’re making an effort to make her happy.

Surprise her by cooking an amazing meal for her. If you’re unsure what she likes or how she likes it, ask her about it. She’ll be only too happy to tell you.

23. Develop Your Body and Mind

How much time do you spend bettering yourself, developing your mental health, and optimizing your physical health?

Women are very attracted to men who want to better themselves, and you can’t give what you don’t have. If she feels like you aren’t growing and moving forward together, she could start losing interest.

24. Show Self-Control and Confidence

Show your girlfriend who you are by being confident and calm, not easily upset or angry. Be especially patient with her moods, and don’t let them rattle you.

Make an effort to understand her perspective before you respond. And if she’s unsure of what to do about something, offer constructive solutions that might help her out.

25. Make Future Plans

Your girlfriend helps you get through tough times, and she always has your back. So, it would be nice if you did what you could to be a better boyfriend.

Try making plans together, so she feels like you take the relationship seriously and it gives you something to look forward to.

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26. Be Patient When She’s Indecisive

Relationships aren’t always easy. It takes hard work and patience to make them work. When you’re stressed or you’re in a negative state you have to use patience.

When she gets mad about something small, respond with love and patience. She’ll appreciate you a lot more if you can keep a cool head when things get hot.

27. Notice Little Things About Her

Noticing little things about your girlfriend makes her happy. Ever notice how her mood changes when she’s in a new outfit and feels good about herself?

Every woman wants to be noticed for who they are and what they bring into the world, so make an effort to acknowledge small details about her. In her mind, that makes you the most incredible boyfriend she could have.

28. Up Your Groom Game

If you want to ensure that your girlfriend stays attracted to you, impeccable hygiene and grooming are a must. Women notice these things.

Try it for yourself. Upgrade your groom game and see how she responds.

29. Don’t Be a Douche

One of the most common mistakes men make is being rude or inconsiderate to their girlfriend. Don’t be a douche. Treat her well, not only for her but for yourself.

And importantly, avoid making negative or rude comments about her appearance or her friends or family. If something’s not right and you need to mention something, there are polite ways to do it.

30. Show Your Emotional Side

It can be daunting to open up to someone about what makes you happy/sad/frustrated. Doing that requires taking off your social mask and showing your true self to the woman you love.

Maybe that’s why so many guys keep their emotions hidden. But there are positive benefits to showing your emotional side.

She’ll appreciate your honesty, and you’ll be a better boyfriend for it because openness in relationships is highly valued.

31. Don’t Put Her on a Pedestal

Are you constantly praising your girlfriend for minor things, even when she doesn’t deserve it? If you are, then you’re putting her on a pedestal.

Everyone likes to hear compliments, but only when they’re genuine. When you use compliments the right way she’s likely to trust you more and believe what you say.

32. Be a Man, Not a Boy

Most girls prefer a confident, strong guy who acts like an adult – not a little boy. If you want to be a better boyfriend, start behaving like the type of man she deserves.

This means being assertive and taking control of a situation when you need to, and being your authentic self.

33. Don’t B.S Her

One thing a man should never do is to b.s his woman. Men need to be honest and forthright if they take the relationship seriously.

If you’re lying to your woman, stop doing it, because It’s only a matter of time before she finds out. If you don’t have confidence in your relationship it’s better to be single than to lie to your girlfriend.

34. Don’t Flirt Around

Flirting with other women when you already have a girlfriend is never a good idea. She’ll start questioning your loyalty and if you have eyes for anyone else, or if you’re even interested in her anymore.

What if she was flirting with other guys to get attention how would you feel? If you’re happy with who you’re with there’s no need to flirt around.

35. Remember Dates

What’s the best way to show your girlfriend you love her? Remembering the special dates in her life.

Taking the time to appreciate and celebrate what makes your relationship unique will make her happy and you an awesome boyfriend.

36. Let Her Teach You

If you’re open to learning, your woman can teach you a lot about relationships: what women like, what they don’t like, and how best a man can satisfy them.

As a man who has success with women, understanding and appreciating their psychology is invaluable.

37. Never Allow Disrespect

If your girlfriend disrespects you, let her go. It might be hard but it’s happened to most guys at some point. Relationships are a two-way street and are founded on mutual respect.

Women don’t want a man who they can walk over. She wants to see you stand your ground under pressure.

38. Influence, Don’t Control

Control in a relationship can be intense and stems from negative thoughts and feelings.

When you try to control people, they’re less likely to do what you want them to because their sense of autonomy has been compromised.

The best thing you can do is love her for who she is and accept any quirks or differences without judgment. Your girlfriend isn’t just some girl, and as her boyfriend, you should honor that.

39. Help Her Achieve

If your girlfriend is like most people, she probably has goals she’s working on. If she is ambitious be supportive and encouraging.

But accomplishing goals can be challenging, especially if you don’t have the right tools and resources. Help her out as best you can, without doing it all for her. It’s her goal so let her achieve it.

40. Be Honest

You might not express your feelings, but it’s vital that if something bothers you, you talk about it. That way, she knows what’s going on in your head, and you can work through it together.

Not being truthful leads to miscommunications, resentment, or anger. Communicating via honesty builds a strong connection of trust and respect between you.

41. Don’t Talk about Ex’s

Your girlfriend probably doesn’t care about your past as much as they care about your present and future.

The reason is that girls can get jealous (so can guys) and resentful when their boyfriends speak about past girlfriends. Avoid discussing anything related to your exes with her, as she should with you.

42. Use Spontaneity

Everyone needs a structure and routine, but it also gets boring. Relationships need spontaneity.

Send her flowers randomly, write her a letter telling her why she makes your world beautiful, or pack her a delicious lunch for work. Try new things and have adventures together because every moment is temporary.

43. Be Scarce

It’s crucial to maintain a balance between giving and taking.  You have to find a balance that works for both of you. One way is to create that balance and increase attraction is by making yourself scarce.

When you’re not always available, she’ll appreciate you more when you are around. The same goes for you; you’ll appreciate her more too.

44. Live Your Best

What if the best way to make your girlfriend happy was to focus on making yourself happy first?

Being your best means keeping yourself in shape mentally and physically, working on bettering yourself to be a better boyfriend and human being.

45. No Oneitis

Oneitis is when a man becomes so fixated on a woman that he forgets there are a million other women and he has other options. Guys with Oneitis also stick around too long in toxic relationships or get taken advantage of.

Women are incredibly attracted to a man with an abundance mindset who knows what he wants.

46. Action Not Words

Actions always speak louder than words.

When you sense something wrong with your girlfriend, and her behavior has changed ask her if she’s ok. If she says, “I’m fine,” but looks miserable, most guys would say “ok” and be done.

That’s what being a better boyfriend means; knowing your woman so well, you don’t have to ask, “are you ok” when her body language says the opposite.

Behavior always ranks higher than words.

47. Watch a Chick Flick

Watching chick flicks with your girlfriend can be a great experience.

Chick flicks have a lot of psychological benefits for women, and watching them together lets you feel more connected. Plus some chick flicks are really good so you might even enjoy it.

48. Forget Perfection

You don’t have to have all the answers or succeed in everything you do. Just stay active and be a source of positive energy, making her laugh, smile, and feel loved.

She doesn’t want a perfect man  (they don’t exist); she wants the best version of you.

49. Think Long-Term

We want the pleasure of being with someone now, without thinking about the consequences down the road.

But if you want a healthy and lasting relationship, you need to think long-term by considering your future and including her in your plans. When it comes to relationships, people think too short-term and don’t plan forward.

50. Raise Your Standards

Raising your standards is one of the most important things you can do. It helps you stay focused on what’s important and keeps you from coming off the course.

Most women would rather be with a guy with high standards who lives by them than with a guy who doesn’t care.

If you want to be a better boyfriend, go through this list and apply these ideas to your life and watch how your relationship improves.

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