10 Ways How to Live With Purpose
By Dragan Vanich
Psychologist, Senior Contributor
Reliable Life Strategies Inc.
What Brings You Joy?
If you could choose to do anything what would it be?
Depending on how badly you want something and what you’re willing to sacrifice to get it, you can have almost anything.
But for that to happen, you have to know what it is.
So how do you find your life mission?
Think about when you were happiest in your life and what the circumstances were that led to that happiness.
A lot of people follow a path they think will bring them joy once they become successful at it.
But they fail to see that your mission isn't an outcome or a destination, it's a journey and a process. Ever moving and ever-evolving.
If you don’t love what you’re doing while you’re doing it (most of the time) you won’t have the internal strength and determination to keep pushing until the end.
If you’re going to invest your life into something, be sure it’s something that gives you emotional satisfaction.
Be real with yourself about what gives you joy, not what you think it should be, or what you want it to be, but what it really is.
When you find your purpose you’ll know it. You’ll never consider quitting because it’s your life mission.
What Interests You?
This is an good way to find your life mission.
There’s a thought in philosophy and psychology that if you were entirely incapable of doing something you’d never have a genuine desire to do it.
If something interests you and has for a long time, it could be your inner voice (subconscious mind, the universe, god, call it what you will) guiding you towards your mission.
There’s an idea I’ve heard in spiritual/philosophical circles that says you were born with your mission already inside you.
Your role in this life is to rediscover what it is and to live it to the best of your ability.
Write down what interests you, it’s good to get it on paper to have it in front of you.
When you find something you have an intense interest in and care about that also brings you joy (step 1) then you likely have what could be your life mission.
What If You Could Do Anything?
Your ability to fulfil your potential is determined by your beliefs.
If you believe in your ability to do something you’re more likely to begin.
Once you begin and get good at it your potential to succeed increases because you’ve proven to yourself you can do it.
If you don’t believe you’ll succeed you won’t even start.
I’ve heard so many times “I’d love to do that BUT (insert limiting belief here)". Heck, I’ve even said it myself a few times.
Put self-doubt to the side for a moment.
To find your life mission you need to face your fears and break through them.
If you want to do something but you don’t have the skills, you can learn the skills.
Maybe you’ve never done it before, well get started so at least you’re in the game.
You might want to do something but feel totally overwhelmed and don’t know where to begin, so pick up a book or do some preliminary research.
Begin from the frame that you can do it, it’s simply a matter of how.
Imagine Your Ideal Life
Your life's mission will be a representation of who you are at your core.
Go inside your mind and see an image of the ideal you, living your ideal life.
The ideal you will be the version of yourself that is living in alignment with your life’s mission.
You can clarify your ideal life by answering these questions:
What does your ideal life look like?
How do you spend your time?
What type of mindset do you have?
How do you present yourself to the world?
How do you speak and communicate?
What’s your vocation?
In what ways are you living your life’s mission?
What are your habits?
Which behaviours and activities do you avoid?
What type of environment do you live in?
What types of people do you have in your life?
Answering questions like this puts an image in your mind that will start to manifest in your life.
Explore New Places
Travelling gets you out of your familiar environment and allows new parts of your personality to come to the surface.
It's no secret that people are “different” when they travel.
They relax a little, their mind is free of the day to day clutter that bombards them at home, and they’re more likely to think and reflect on their life while they’re away.
This is the state of being that allows your best ideas to come to you. When you "get out of your own way", your inner self directs you towards your soul's true destination.
The reason travel is so important to your finding your mission is that your travel adventure (whatever it may be) exposes you to new situations and conditions your conscious mind isn’t used to.
You literally unlock a part of your personality that usually lies dormant.
With that comes insights and realisations that often lead you to a path. That path can lead you to your mission.
So today, or this week, make travel plans. Make travel a regular part of your life. Travel is so much more than travel.
Travel is awakening. When you’re awake (as opposed to being stupefied in a daily routine of everyday life), that's when your mission reveals itself.
Stay Out of Your Comfort Zone
While traveling will definitely put you outside your comfort zone, there are other ways you can pursue your mission by using the same principle.
How do you know if something is right for you or not if you never try it?
Get out into life and expose yourself to new experiences.
Don’t think too much about it either you’ll probably just talk yourself out of it.
Make the call, book the class, buy the ticket, make the plan.
A few things happen when you put yourself further and further outside your comfort zone.
Firstly your self-confidence increases because you know you can handle the unfamiliar.
You also gain a better understanding of what you want and what you don’t want.
The people you meet while you’re doing new things can also have a positive effect on your life.
It only takes one idea, one conversation, or meeting one person, and the entire direction of your life can change.
Reading and learning new information opens your mind to ideas and possibilities you may never have considered.
Exposing yourself to new perceptions of reality (biographies, history, documentaries, courses) awakens you to something you might not have been able to see before.
One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is to derive pleasure from learning.
If you have a curiosity and a desire to know more, you have an important piece of the success puzzle in your hands.
Because if you already knew what you needed to be successful, you would already be living your mission.
If you shun learning or self-education you cut yourself off from learning what you need to know to progress.
If you’re open to learning new things and seek them out, you’ll evolve into the person you need to be to get what you want and to live out your mission.
Gain Strength From Hard Times
Hard times, struggles, setbacks, and failures. We’ve all had them.
They suck when you’re going through them, but after the storm has passed you can use that same experience to your advantage.
When times are going well and everyone's winning, people lose perspective and start to forget they’re vulnerable to even the tiniest change in circumstance.
When you’re face to face with personal failure or loss, you’re forced to rethink everything you previously held to be true.
You can gain great insight from your hard times. Use them as a tool to highlight your weaknesses or flaws in your thinking and character.
Use your hard times to see who you really are and what’s really important to you.
From there your mission and purpose might reveal itself to you.
Keep Your Ego in Check
Your ego can blind you to what’s right in front of you.
Pride and confidence are important things to have.
But when they cross the line and become more a hindrance than a gift, your ego can lead you down the wrong path.
An example could be you’re searching for your life’s purpose and you keep getting an intuitive feeling of what it could be.
But to follow that path you'll have to admit that you've been wrong.
You’ll have to change who you are and risk failure and shame if it doesn't work out.
Keep your ego in check by not allowing it to control you.
Find Your Mission and Go All In
The only way to really know your life mission is to get active and start engaging in life until you find it.
You can think about it and talk about it all you like, but until you’re actually doing it you’ll never know.
No time like the present. If you’ve read this far you’re a serious contender for success.
Take the previous 9 strategies and apply them today.
Set the clear intention you will find your purpose, then go about your life.
You might even forget you set the intention, you’ll be too busy living your life.
But the day will come when you realize you’ve not only found your mission and purpose but you’re actually living it.
Now it’s up to you. Go get it.
Best Quotes About Living With Purpose
“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
“If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun” ~ Katharine Hepburn
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did” ~ Mark Twain
“Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can” ~ Danny Kaye
“The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
“It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts” ~ Adlai Stevenson
“You’ve got to get to the stage in life where going for it is more important than winning or losing” ~ Arthur Ashe“You’ve gotta dance like nobody's watching, love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like nobody's listening, And live like it's heaven on earth” ~ William W. Purkey