7 Powerful Ways to Destroy Your Fear of Losing
Chris Ross, M.PsychTh.
- No one likes losing. But it’s a necessary part of winning
- Most people fear losing because it makes them look bad, and they feel foolish
- Self-esteem is the source of all your achievement and happiness
- Gaining knowledge in any area increases your chance of succeeding in it
- Just because you lose today, it doesn’t mean you won’t win big tomorrow.
What is the Phobia of Losing?
No one likes losing. But it’s part of winning, and you can’t have lasting success without experiencing loss and failure and learning from it, then using it to make yourself better.
That’s not to say you’ll go out of your way to fail at things. But when you do fail or mess up, it’s usually not the end of the world, and by using it as a tool rather than a whip, you can come out of it a winner.
So why do we have such a phobia of losing? Much of it comes down to our social conditioning, where being anything less than perfect means you’re a “loser.”
Of course, this is rubbish, as some of the most successful people we know had multiple failures before they were able to find their success.
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying” – Michael Jordan
What Causes Fear of Losing?
If you’re not failing and making mistakes, you probably aren’t making much progress or living a particularly successful life.
Most people fear losing because it makes them look bad, and they feel foolish to themselves and the people around them.
But anyone who’s tasted success knows that the same fear of losing keeps you from enjoying the life you deserve.
The opposite of the fear of losing is self-confidence and certainty that you can achieve your desired outcome, despite any short-term failures.
In this post, I’ve put together six of the most potent ways you can destroy your fear of losing and get yourself back to winning, both inside your mind and out in the real world.
“Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again” – Richard Branson
7 Ways to Destroy Your Fear of Losing
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Self-esteem is the source of all your achievement and happiness. Without it, you have nothing.
When a person has healthy self-esteem, they don’t beat themselves up every time they mess up or when something doesn’t turn out the way they hoped.
They might be disappointed, but they remain stoic and focus on their outcome. At its core, self-esteem is believing in yourself and your ability to overcome anything that comes your way.
Think about what it is that you fear. Another way to minimize your fear is by becoming knowledgeable about what you fear.
Say you want to start investing in the stock market, but you have no clue where to start.
You’ve heard horror stories about people getting wiped out and you’re procrastinating because you don’t want to suffer the same fate.
Your priority is to gain as much knowledge about the stock market as possible. Then you’ll be more confident when it comes to making your investment decisions.
Knowledge in any area increases your chance of success in it.
“Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don’t fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgment, repeated every day” – Jim Rohn
Another way you can start getting over your fear of losing is to increase your determination to win. In most cases, if you keep going and going, learning and improving along the way, you will get there.
Why would so many people quit or not even try if that’s the case? They were determined, but they weren’t determined enough.
They also fear losing, which prevents them from living fully in the now.
“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else” – John Burroughs
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Everyone has flaws. Personal flaws range from minor and insignificant to so severe they impact your ability to live a more productive life.
But when you take the time to seriously enquire into how your mind works and the effects on your life, you’ll be amazed at the insights you discover.
In one example, it can be a painful experience when you look at yourself and realize you’ve been your own worst enemy for most of your life.
But from chaos comes order, and you can use what you know to become better at everything you do.
“Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes its built on catastrophe” – Sumner Redstone
5. Massive Action
In most cases, you lose when you quit. So what if you just kept taking action towards what you wanted to achieve in your life?
Massive action creates momentum. Like riding a big wave, you get to a point where you don’t have to paddle the wave is powerful enough to carry you.
Once you have that momentum, it’s harder for anything to knock you off your path because you’re already active and focused.
6. Focus on Winning
What you choose to focus on determines the reality you experience on a moment-to-moment basis. When you’re considering taking action, you procrastinate because you’re thinking about losing.
What if your focus was winning and attaining the outcome you’ve been working for while enjoying every moment?
There’s no 100% guarantee of success in anything. Still, your probability of success increases massively when your focus is on winning instead of your fear of losing.
“The person interested in success has to learn to view failure as a healthy, inevitable part of the process of getting to the top” – Joyce Brothers
7. See Losing as Winning
What if you chose to see every minor temporary loss as one step closer to your success, only in disguise? Just because you lose today, it doesn’t mean you won’t win big tomorrow.
That’s where mindset comes into play. If your mindset is too short-term focused with expectations of quick gains and no pains, you’re in for a challenging ride.
But when you take a longer-term view, it lessens the importance of any particular event having that much effect on you.
As long as you’re healthy and making clear progress towards a better you/business/family/world, you’re winning.
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