If You Don't Know What to Do, You're Not Alone
Do you not have the slightest idea about what you want to do with your life?
Is where you are right now even close to where you want to be?
Having no clear direction in life can leave you feeling aimless, unsuccessful, and after a while, utterly worthless.
If you want to get out of this rut anytime soon, it's time to make some decisions.
Not wishes or a half-ass “maybe one day I’ll do it”.
A real decision means you commit to a course of action and follow it through to completion.
Is It Ok to Not Know What You Want to Do?
Some of the most successful people in history endured prolonged periods of feeling lost and directionless.
They went through countless ups and downs along the path to finding their ultimate purpose.
Some endured pain and setbacks that would finish most people off, but they didn’t give up.
It’s ok to go through periods of not knowing what you want to do.
What isn’t ok is staying stuck there for too long without any goals or set plans, not taking action.
If you want it badly enough (I mean really, really want it) then you’ll most likely get it. You'll find a way.
The question is how much do you want it, and what are you willing to sacrifice to get it?
6 Things to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do
1. Just Start Something
Analysis paralysis is when you're spending so much time thinking and analyzing that you don't actually do anything.
A common theme in underachievers is their need to know everything in advance before they commit themselves and take action.
You don’t need to know every detail in advance.
In fact, that will work more against you than for you.
It's a distraction from just getting started and figuring out the next step along the way.
2. Prepare to Be Uncomfortable
Not knowing what to do with your life is like coming to a fork in the road.
Which way do you go from here?
Taking that next step forward means you’ll have to move outside your comfort zone and into a new place of temporary uncertainty.
There’s no guarantee anything will ever work out the way we want it to.
Likewise, there’s also nothing to say it won’t work out splendidly for you, even better than expected.
That’s why it's the unknown. Until you find your footing and gain some momentum it might feel uncomfortable.
Be prepared for that and don’t let it disturb you when you experience it.
3. Know How to Deal With Uncertainty
As you move towards your new life path, you need to know how you'll deal with uncertainty when it arises. And it will arise.
Do you freeze when you face the unknown?
Or do you face it head-on and push through until you get to a more comfortable place?
For example, I love uncertainty because to me it means new opportunities.
My brother is the opposite. He avoids uncertainty and stays in his comfort zone even though he’s not entirely happy being there.
What about you? How do you deal with uncertainty?
4. Delete All Distractions From Your Life
There’s a reason why only a small percentage of the population are what’s considered “successful”.
Most people distract themselves with so much meaningless garbage that they don’t have the time left to do anything worthwhile with their lives.
Smartphones, social media, binge-watching Netflix.
They’re all distractions, keeping you from your goals.
People who know what to do with their lives value their time and don't waste it.
They understand their time is finite.
Knowing what you want to do with yourself is the first step.
But unless you declutter your life of all the distractions around you won’t have the time, energy, or focus to make it happen.
5. Opportunity Comes When You Least Expect It
You might know what you want to do with your life, you just don't know how you’re going to do it.
There's only one way to find out: BEGIN.
Taking even the smallest action leads to the next action, then the next.
As you proceed the world opens up and opportunities to advance start presenting themselves to you.
Whether you know what you want to do or you’re entirely clueless, keep your eyes and your mind open.
Opportunity will come. Be ready for it.
6. Laziness and Procrastination Are Your Enemies
Everyone experiences procrastination and laziness.
They’ll always be there knocking at your door.
Your responsibility is to not give in to them when they come calling.
Procrastination and laziness are your number one enemies.
Their presence keeps you stuck in mediocrity.
When your desire for an outcome is so strong you know it’s your true calling.
Laziness and procrastination start to fade and give way to determination and enthusiasm.
How Do You Find Your True Self?
1. Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses
What can you do almost effortlessly and what do you struggle even getting your head around?
If you know your weakness is that you get distracted working online you can design a better strategy to overcome that weakness.
You can chunk your time into productivity blocks, regular breaks, working in different environments, etc.
Likewise, if you know your strength is communication, you can double down and focus on ideas specifically related to your strengths.
What are your own strengths and weaknesses? And how are you using them to improve yourself and your life?
2. What Are You Enthusiastic About?
You must have something in your life that makes you feel enthusiastic and excited.
Even if you’re not doing it right now, you can still learn.
The longer you spend procrastinating about something the longer it will take to be successful at it. So get started today.
If it’s not your calling you’ll know soon enough.
And if it is, then you’ve found your pot of gold.
Whatever you decide to do make sure it’s something you’re passionate about and interested in.
If it’s not then you’ll never become good enough at it to succeed.
You can't half-ass your way to success. You have to be all in.
3. Be Comfortable in Silence
It’s been said that all the answers to every question you could ever have can be found in the silence.
If you can’t spend time alone in silence, with nothing but your own thoughts as company, you’ll only ever know yourself on a superficial level.
Some people find being alone in silence incredibly challenging.
All their flaws and fears stare them right in the face, and instead of facing them, they retreat back to comfort and stupidity.
Other people crave silence. They see it as an opportunity to understand themselves more.
When you emerge from a period of solitude you have a new perspective on life.
4. Put Yourself in Unfamiliar Environments
The only way to really find out who you are and what you’re made of is to put yourself in unfamiliar environments.
It places you outside of your regular comfort zone and causes you to access parts of your personality that would have otherwise laid dormant for years.
There’s a downside to familiarity. It slowly drains you and over time renders you unable to adapt to change.
Think about the guy who’s been in a job he hates for ten years. Or the woman stuck in a miserable marriage.
Both probably had the opportunity to get out at some point, but they chose familiarity instead.
Do yourself a favor by putting yourself in unfamiliar environments.
You’ll discover who you really are, what's really important to you, and what you need and don’t need to be content.
Knowing what you don’t want is just as important as knowing what you do want.
What Can I Do to Find Direction in My Life?
1. Be Grateful for What You Have
Remember wherever you are in your life, some people would risk their own lives to be where you are right now.
Your worst day is someone else’s dream life.
Don’t overindulge in self-pity or take what you have for granted.
Be grateful you are where you are and that you have an opportunity to improve yourself and your life.
Some people don't even have that, so be grateful for what you have.
2. Stop Your Self-Sabotage
Your own worst enemy is yourself.
How many times have you sabotaged your own success either by ignorance or by doing or saying the wrong thing at the wrong time?
When your goals, values, and beliefs are all aligned and you’re taking consistent action your chances of self-sabotage are low.
But when you don’t have clarity about what you want to do or why you want to do it, you’ll have conflicting messages in your brain which lead to self-sabotage.
Find your true self, get rid of all the distractions in your life, and spend some time alone in silence with only your thoughts.
The most important thing you can do is to do something. Anything. Just get started.
3. Stop Thinking and Start Doing
This is the step that ties all the others together.
Without this step, everything else is a waste of your time.
You can think, talk, and plan.
But unless you get moving and make things happen, nothing will change.
It's time to take action.
Quotes About Knowing What to Do in Your Life
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom” - Aristotle
“I don’t know why we all hang on to something we’re better off letting go of” - Meredith Grey
“Know your worth, hold your own power, be you.” Morgan Harper Nichols
“Know who you are. Know what you want. Know what you deserve. And don’t settle for less” - Tony Gaskins
“If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life” — Marc Anthony