Being an Amazing Partner
Let's talk about how to be an amazing lover and partner.
A healthy relationship takes work and commitment from both people.
But it starts with you.
Being a good partner means being a good person.
You can positively influence your relationships by being your best self.
A good rule of thumb is to give first.
What you give you’ll likely get back (the law of reciprocity).
Here's 8 very effective ways for being a good person, a good partner, and having a great relationship.
Let's dive right in...
1. Be Truthful
Be truthful with your partner about how you feel and what's on your mind.
Don't keep things bottled up inside.
Be open and transparent about how you feel.
Truthful communication builds trust and respect.
You can resolve problems quickly before they get out of hand.
Be direct and honest even when it feels uncomfortable.
A relationship is nothing without honesty and respect.
Open communication and truthful exchange builds trust and strengthens the bond you both share.
2. Listen to What They Say
Listen to your partner.
Not so much the words coming out of their mouth, but the meaning behind the words.
Sometimes words don't convey the right message.
Your partner wants to know you're listening and that you understand.
Your actions and words mean a lot to someone who loves you.
Listen and understand before you respond.
3. Give Your Undivided Attention
Give your partner the attention they deserve.
Relationships gets predictable.
It's easy to take each other for granted.
No one likes to be ignored or under appreciated. It builds resentment and can lead to bigger problems.
By giving your partner attention you're showing them they're important.
Relationships don't need to be complicated.
Understand how your partner feels appreciated.
Have a genuine desire to make them feel special and loved.
A good partner makes shows appreciation through their words and their actions.
4. Avoid Monotony - Keep it Fun
Monotony and predictability lead to boredom, loss of intimacy, and even infidelity.
Take responsibility for keeping your relationship interesting and exciting.
Surprise your partner when they least expect it.
Try new things and change your routine.
When your relationship gets predictable it's time to shake things up.
A good partner will always find ways to keep the magic alive.
5. Initiate Intimacy
Sex is what separates a relationship from a friendship.
Intimacy strengthens bonds and connection.
When partners become disinterested in each other sexually the relationship loses it's value.
Sex is a primary human need. Satisfying your partner sexually gives them an emotional lift.
People are happier when they have regular sex with someone they are about.
Show affection. Make your partner feel sexy, and give them sexual pleasure.
6. Make Quality Time a Priority
Everyone's busy. It's easy to get caught up.
Prioritising quality time together is a must.
Don't let yourself get lost in your day to day routine and neglect the people who love you.
A good partner always makes time for the people they love.
Schedule quality time together. Phones away. No distractions. Both fully present.
Giving your partner quality time shows you appreciate them and you’re grateful to have them in your life.
7. Be There Through the Hard Times
Relationships aren’t all sunshine and rainbows.
A good partner shows strength and support in hard times.
Challenge and adversity have a way of bringing people together.
Prove to your partner they can rely on you.
Reliability is a valuable characteristic to have.
When people see you're reliable they respect you more.
Unreliable people become lonely people.
Be there when your partner needs you in good times and bad.
8. Love Yourself First
A good partner is a well-balanced person living an exciting and meaningful life.
You have self-respect and personal boundaries.
If you don’t love yourself why would anyone else?
Love yourself first.
The better your relationship is with yourself the more you have to give.
Communicate truthfully. Keep your sexual fires burning hot.
Listen to what your partner is saying show them they're appreciated.
Be a good person. Be a good partner.
So now it's your turn.
Are you a good partner? How could you be better?
Think about what you want in a parter. What values and qualities do you find attractive?
How can you give those same things to another?
A good partner is able to view things through the other persons eyes.
To understand their perspective and communicate in a way that they understand.
Being a good partner isn't so much what you say but more what you do.
When it comes to relationships, action does speak louder than words.
Best Quotes About Being a Good Partner
"Often, little situations trigger enormous reactions. Be there, present for it. Your partner will find it easier to see it in you, and you will find it easier to see it in them". - Eckhart Tolle
"It's fun to have a partner who understands your life and lets you be you". - Kim Kardashian
"Having experienced everything you don't want in a partner over time, it starts to narrow down to what you actually do want". - Jennifer Aniston
"If you're understood in maybe, I don't know, 60% of your soul by your partner, that's fantastic. Don't expect that it's going to be 100%. Of course you will be lonely". - Alain de Botton