What Is a Life Well Lived?
What does a "life well lived" mean to you? Quality relationships? Fun experiences?
Wealth, health and abundance?
Everyone has their own definition of success.
Robust health and a good education make a strong foundation for an amazing life.
Same as having enough money to not have to worry about money.
Relationships add a richness to life as well, as a sense of contribution and belonging.
What Are the Rules of Life?
1. Detach From Your Past
If you’re a grown adult and you’re still holding onto things from your past you need to consider letting them go.
How many of your mannerisms, thoughts, and actions are automatic responses you picked up sometime in the past.
Even if they no longer serve you, you still carry them around with you. Why?
Don’t allow your past to control your present, and limit your future.
You can’t make your past magically disappear by clicking your fingers.
But you can begin the process by detaching yourself from it.
2. Time Is Your Ally
Time is a remarkable thing.
It can heal wounds (physical, emotional, and psychological) that you once thought would never heal.
It can also remind you of the value of life, and of appreciating the present moment for what it is.
You’ll never have that moment again.
The importance of time is highlighted when we lose someone we care about.
One moment they were here, the next they’re gone.
Time also acts as your ally when it comes to a life well-lived.
It’s astonishing what you can accomplish over time.
What once seemed insurmountable, if followed diligently over time, can become your reality.
There’s zero chance you can have a life well lived if you’re too concerned about what other people think about you.
Don’t be ignorant or dismissive, there's always something to learn so keep an open mind.
But at the end of the day, it’s your life, and you have to live it.
Start to care less about other people's opinions and more about following your own purpose and mission.
Similar to being too concerned with what other people think about you, comparing yourself to others also holds you back.
The media promotes a certain image of who you should be and how you should live your life.
When you see someone who appears to have what you think you want, it’s easy to start comparing yourself..
But you know nothing about them.
Maybe they worked hard for years to get where they are.
Don't waste energy thinking about what other people do or have.
Stay focused on what you do, and what you have.
5. Don't Overthink Everything
While the human mind is a miracle, it can also be a curse.
If you over think to the point of inaction you're working against yourself.
Sometimes you have to just go for it.
You’ll never know how things will work out beforehand.
Overthinking clouds your judgment and your ability to take effective action.
When you know who you are and what you want, you stop questioning yourself.
You trust your internal compass to guide you.
6. Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously
How many of us think we’re the centre of the universe, and that anyone who thinks differently than we do is wrong?
When we don't get what we want we get grumpy and negative.
Taking yourself too seriously closes you off from seeing the positive in the world.
Add to that the biological effects of flooding your brain with excessive cortisol.
Next time you’re stuck in traffic remember not to take yourself too seriously.
7. Only You Can Make You Happy
If you always need someone or something to make you feel happy, you won’t be happy.
Being self-reliant, managing your own emotional states, and generating happiness from within are the building blocks to a well-lived life.
Companies tell you what will make you happy then sell it to you.
You have a temporary spike in dopamine.
But when that declines you’re no happier than you were before.
8. Show Respect to Yourself and Others
Respecting yourself means upholding your standards and values.
You know your self worth as a human being.
When you respect yourself you also demand more from yourself.
You have goals, direction, and clear boundaries for what you will and won’t allow into your life.
Respect is a prerequisite for effective communication.
People like to feel acknowledged and valued.
By showing respect you’ll make more alliances and be presented with more opportunities.
I’ve traveled all over the world and experienced many different cultures.
In every single one of them, respect was both appreciated and reciprocated.
You always have options. If you don’t like something you can change it.
It might not be an instant change.
But over time there’s not a lot you can’t improve if you’re truly committed to doing so.
Who you are today is a result of all your thoughts and the decisions you’ve made up until this point.
Having the ability to change your life doesn’t mean you will.
It takes conscious effort and persistence to be exceptional.
But the good news is that over time it becomes easier.
Examine your thoughts and actions, your habits, and lifestyle.
Decide what’s already great and what you need to change.
If there’s something about yourself or your life you’re not satisfied with don’t accept it, change it!
10. Your Outer World Reflects Your Inner World
A man was sitting with his son, eating lunch.
The man was talking to his son about his problems.
How this person and that person were just driving him mad, and how this thing and that thing was frustrating him.
The boy stayed silent, listening, eating his sandwich.
When the man finished his rant the young boy looked at him and said calmly “maybe the problem is you”.
The man was stunned. The boy was right.
If you’re in an angry state people will annoy you.
They might be good people with no bad intentions but you’ll find something about them that irritates you.
Likewise, when you’re in a loving and carefree state things don’t bother you.
If you see yourself as a loser, then at that moment you are a loser.
If you choose to see yourself as successful and you live in alignment with that, you will be successful.
The reality we experience is a reflection of our perceptions, our beliefs, and the meaning we give to things.
When you apply these rules into your everyday life and stay consistent the results will astound you.
You’ll look back and say you had a life well-lived.
Quotes About a Life Well Lived
“That man is a success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much” - Robert Louis Stevenson
“A life well-lived is the most exquisite work of art” - Erwin McManus
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough” - Mae West
“Beauty comes from a life well-lived. If you've lived well, your smile lines are in the right places” - Jennifer Garner
“Don't be afraid of death; be afraid of an unlived life. You don't have to live forever, you just have to live” - Natalie Babbitt
“To do what you wanna do, to leave a mark - in a way that you think is important and lasting - that's a life well-lived” - Laurene Powell Jobs